challenges and difficulties
Red Barry either overvalues or undervalues his possessions and assets. He can also go to extremes in dealing with bodily needs and desires, being either hedonistic or ascetic. Don Barry may deny himself sensual pleasure and enjoyment of the fruits of his labors. He may also be stingy and unable to give freely. Many times Don Barry feels that he does not have "enough" to make him feel secure, regardless of how much (money, insurance, etc.) he has!
Don Barry has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life that colors everything he does. Caution and realism are his virtues though Don limits himself at times by being too careful, shy or fearful, not believing in himself enough, or lacking the required assertiveness. Others find Don Barry difficult to get to know intimately, as Red Barry tends to distance himself from them or to outwardly adopt a rather stern, "adult" demeanor.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Don Barry instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Don Barry needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Seeking harmonious interpersonal relationships, cooperation, and togetherness, as well as the desire to please or appease other people, are drives that come very naturally to Don Barry - so much so that he seeks them out at his own expense. When he is under stress, Red Barry tends to look outside himself for approval or answers, and he leans on others too much. Therefore, developing self-reliance, and the courage to look inwardly for answers and forge his own path through life is a key factor in his self-development.
Don Barry is often tempted to be less than completely straightforward about his intentions or desires, and he can become enmeshed in a quagmire of "little white lies". Stark honesty - both inward and toward others - is the only way out! This, however, leads to the need to confront some of Red Barry's most deeply ingrained fears, such as "what if they do not like me?" and "what if I have to go through this alone?".
Don Barry needs to cultivate his ability to be assertive, take initiative and act on his own behalf. Directness and self-reliance are imperative.
It is in his relationships with others that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. There is a dynamic balance (or conflict) within Don Barry between acting spontaneously and being true to himself versus modifying himself or his behavior to suit others. Don Barry seesaws between being inordinately concerned with his self to being overly conciliatory and concerned with others' needs, rights, or opinions about him. Learning to act authentically and forthrightly regardless of possible consequences is Red Barry's task.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Don Barry back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Being bound to past events and experiences because of his desire to belong, deep attachments to family and the familiar (even if they are neither nourishing nor helpful), the desire to nurture or be nurtured by others, and a strong resistance to cutting the umbilical cord.
Don Barry tends to be fascinated by new and obscure things and may be strongly attracted to the occult. He may contribute to the spontaneous forming of groups and may gain spiritual enlightenment together with others.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Taurus
Saturn in 1st house
N. Node in Aries
N. Node in 1st house
N. Node Opposition Moon
N. Node Conjunct Uranus/Neptune