approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Hans' basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Hans Bender comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Hans Bender - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Hans Bender" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Hans a little better. This page describes the disguise Bender wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if he strongly disagrees with someone, Hans Bender will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. He often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Hans has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Hans Bender very much wants to be liked and because of his need for approval and acceptance, Bender is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. He so much wants to please that often Hans Bender will suppress his own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Bender's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
His need to create harmony extends to his physical environment and personal appearance as well. Hans Bender appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. He does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From his home furnishings to his choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
He also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Bender is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Hans possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to him and finding the right person to share his life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Hans Bender - he is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases his self-confidence. Hans Bender does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on his partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being himself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Hans.
Others see Hans Bender as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to him, this is the sort of face Bender shows to the world. He possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. His motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Hans Bender usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
Hans Bender comes across as quirky, unusual, offbeat and "different". Sometimes he appears to provoke people and upset the status quo just by being himself. Bender tends to be restless, excitable and somewhat ungrounded or nervous as well.
Hans Bender is extremely sensitive to all the impressions and energies around him and at times can be overcome or dominated by more forceful personalities. Learning to establish clear boundaries is important for him, as Hans Bender tends to become enmeshed emotionally and/or psychically with whomever he is with. He may have the chameleon's trait of appearing to become the people or person he is with the most.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Uranus Square Asc.
Neptune Square Asc.