Hans Bender
in Relationships
Secretive and inclined to brooding silences, it is difficult for others to really know his inner core, for Hans Bender only trusts and opens himself to a select few. Allowing himself to be vulnerable and to relinquish control in relationships is not easy for Bender.
Hans has intense, passionate loves and hates and is a jealously loyal and protective friend - or a fearsome foe. Hans Bender has a nasty habit of holding onto past hurts, resentments and guilt - and to keep such feelings to himself. It is important for Hans Bender to learn to forgive and let go, as well as to express his feelings openly and directly, rather than hiding or repressing them.
He is not content with superficial appearances and is always probing beneath the surface of things for hidden motives. Hans Bender has a great deal of emotional depth.
He is likely to be a great collector of things - a real pack rat in fact - for his belongings give Hans Bender a sense of security and continuity with the past, which is important to him. Antiques or articles with sentimental value from Hans' past are especially dear to him.
Hans Bender may also cling rather tightly to money and possessions, keeping them "in the family" rather than sharing freely with those outside of his immediate circle.
Hans Bender has an inner poise and balance that enables him to act in a cool, efficient manner during emotional trauma and stress. He maintains his perspective and objectivity about highly charged emotional issues - sometimes to the chagrin of others who might wish that Bender would react more intensely. Hans is quietly supportive and faithful to his friends and loved ones.
In addition to Hans' rather introverted, serious or self-contained side, he has a wild streak and urge for emotional freedom that breaks through erratically. Hans Bender craves both stability and excitement, and the conflict between these two impulses can make Bender rather tense and irritable. However, they can also balance each other out. His freer and unpredictable side will now be described.
His emotional attitudes and instincts tend to be quite liberal. Hans Bender does not want to be caged or dictated to, and he feels everyone is entitled to do as they please in their personal and emotional affairs. Bender tends to surround himself with people who are unusual, creative, open-minded, unpredictable, restless and changeable, and his relationships - with women in particular - may be somewhat unstable as a result. However, Hans Bender enjoys an element of surprise and unpredictability.
The beauty and harmony of his surroundings have a very powerful effect on Bender's emotions. He is very sensitive and cannot stand to be in an atmosphere where there is discord or dissonance. Gentle, kindhearted, and peace loving, Hans Bender is prepared to sacrifice a great deal in order to avoid a fight and to "make everyone happy".
In love relationships, Hans Bender seeks companionship and friendship with someone who is fun loving, playful and open to adventure and new experiences. He enjoys traveling together, meeting new people and making new friends. Honeymooning in a distant location appeals to Hans, and he is also attracted to foreigners or people with diametrically different backgrounds than his own. Hans Bender supports his partner in taking risks and making positive changes, rather than preserving the status quo. He also very much wants a partner who will encourage his own aspirations and dreams. It is very important to Hans that he have a spiritual or intellectual rapport with his love partner, perhaps more important than the emotional/physical aspect. Hans Bender is not especially sentimental and his love partner may feel that he is too casual and not serious or romantic enough.
Beautiful, elegant and harmonious surroundings are very important to Hans Bender, and he has an innate sense of style, design and form. Socially as well good form and politeness are important to Bender and he instinctively avoids crudeness and dissonance.
He enjoys talking about love, relationships, art and the beautiful side of life. Hans Bender appreciates artistic people.
Money is liable to be an issue in his life, not because he does not have it, but because Hans Bender cannot or will not hold onto it. Hans Bender has a freehanded, generous, open attitude and would prefer to spend and enjoy and partake in the pleasures of the moment than to save, discipline or budget himself. At Bender's worst, he wants an easy ride and friends will often let Hans freeload because he is such an agreeable, friendly and pleasant sort. Alternatively, Bender could let other people take advantage of his hospitality and tolerance.
Bender also avoids confronting difficult issues in relationships simply because it is too much trouble or too petty. Hans Bender just wants to have a good time.
He is strongly attracted to the opposite sex and his relationships tend to be harmonious. Hans Bender will probably marry for love and his mate will be a friend to him as well as a lover. The atmosphere in his family life is affectionate and protective.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Scorpio
Moon in 2nd house
Moon Trine Saturn
Moon aspects Saturn and Uranus
Moon Sextile Uranus
Moon Trine Neptune
Venus in Sagittarius
Venus in 3rd house
Venus Opposition Jupiter
Venus Conjunct Sun/Moon
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