challenges and difficulties
Ray-J takes his personal relationships so seriously that they may seem more like work, constant effort and compromise, rather than a free and enjoyable sharing experience. He may feel that relationships in general require more of him than they are worth, and Ray-J enters into any close relationship cautiously and conscientiously. Ray-J also fears entrapment in close relationships.
Ray-J takes both his work and his health very seriously, but he may demand so much of himself at work that he compromises his health. Ray-J can become a workaholic, not so much because he has lofty ambitions, but because he never feels like he has done enough. Ray-J is overly responsible or overly conscientious at work, so much so that he may not enjoy it at all.
Ray-J can also get overly involved in self-improvement or his health, and he tends to be a bit of a hypochondriac.
His aspirations and dreams are always tempered by realism and practical considerations. Ray-J pursues his aims in a systematic, disciplined and thorough manner, and he is willing to take his time, advancing slowly and steadily toward his goal.
Sometimes Ray-J underestimates what is possible, and holds himself back unnecessarily due to a lack of faith or an overly cautious attitude.
Ray-J tends to suppress his feelings and may be somewhat inhibited in love relationships. He may often feel rejected or he may give the impression of rejecting others himself. Perhaps his mother or father found it difficult to express their affection.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Ray-J instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Ray-J needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Ray-J's path lies in his development as an individual, the discovery of his own strengths and joys, the capacity to express his uniqueness and to stand out in a crowd. This involves becoming a leader, even though Ray-J's instinct is actually to be "one of the Indians" rather than the "chief". When under stress Ray-J is apt to seek safety in numbers, to go along with the group. Also, he may believe that striving to do his personal best and to excel is wrong or selfish, but Ray-J should let go of this notion. Finding his own center and doing what gives him delight and energy is the most worthwhile contribution Ray-J can offer the world at large.
It is in trying to strike a balance between Ray-J's inner, personal life and his career or involvement with the world at large that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Ray-J needs to focus attention on his home and family situation, and create a secure inner anchor.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Ray-J back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Excessive thinking, rationalizing or talking, the overuse or misuse of Ray-J's intellectual abilities and the tendency to allow his energy to be dissipated in trivial activities.
The need to be first all of the time and demonstrate an aggressive or bossy attitude, impatience or irritability; an over-eagerness to use force or violence to gain advantage and the tendency to resort to fighting or using confrontation too quickly.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Libra
Saturn in 6th house
Jupiter Conjunct Saturn
Saturn Opposition Moon/Venus
N. Node in Leo
N. Node in 4th house
N. Node Opposition Mercury
N. Node Opposition Mars