approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Ray-J's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Ray-J comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Ray-J - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Ray-J" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Ray-J a little better. This page describes the disguise Ray-J wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
Ray-J has a sensible and realistic outlook on life and his two feet are always planted firmly on the ground (though he may, on occasion, have his head in the clouds). Others often see Ray-J as a rock of strength, solid, reliable, dependable, and constant. He is, in fact, amazingly consistent for he possesses great powers of endurance and does not like to make changes or adjustments to his regular routine. Ray-J does things deliberately and methodically and does not easily accommodate the unexpected. Though he has a gentle, even soft, appearance, Ray-J is enormously strong-willed and stubborn. He follows his own pace and refuses to be rushed or pushed into anything before he feels sure about it. Ray-J can be coaxed and persuaded by charm, beauty, love or affection - but never forced. He will not fight either, but simply stubbornly resist any attempt at being coerced into doing something he does not want to do.
When Ray-J has a purpose, he is extremely fixed, immovable, and bullheaded about it. His obstinacy is often infuriating to others, especially since it takes much provocation to make him flare up or respond to their anger. Ray-J appears calm, unruffled, and unemotional most of the time, but behind his easygoing and peaceable appearance there lies great strength. When it comes to a contest of wills, Ray-J often wins simply due to his relentless persistence and his ability to outlast just about anyone. Another reason for his reluctance to make changes is his very strong need for security. Ray-J is most comfortable in stable, relatively unchanging conditions and he also has a strong desire for tangible security - a home of his own, money in the bank, job security, etc. The flip side of Ray-J's hankering for permanence is that he easily gets caught up in a rut and will stay in a familiar situation (e.g. job, marriage) long after it has lost its vitality and interest.
Ray-J has a keen appreciation of the natural world and he derives great joy from the down-to-earth comforts of the physical world, with its myriad of delights. He is quite sensual in a very natural, wholesome way and he knows how to enjoy himself. Ray-J is appealing to the opposite sex in an earthy way. He is also a great lover of beauty and his tastes are basically conventional or classic - not modern.
He may come across as a bit scattered, nervous or restless, as if unable to sit still. Ray-J seems alert and quick, but sometimes a bit on edge. Ray-J tends to stay perpetually busy, and would find handiwork of some kind soothing.
Ray-J has an appealing physical appearance, which - along with his winning ways - is likely to make him a favorite in his immediate environment. Ray-J is the "easy" one, and he knows how to please others. However, Ray-J must not take his personal charm for granted, because he may also come across as vain or too needy for approval.
His emotional instincts, feelings and intuition play a big part in the decisions Ray-J makes and how he interacts with the world, and generally his feelings are quite accurate and helpful to him. Also, establishing emotional rapport with the people he meets day-to-day is rather easy for Ray-J. Ray-J appears somewhat sympathetic and concerned, so that others are drawn to him, especially when they need guidance or help.
At times his desire to impress other people, or be important or popular may make Ray-J do things that go against his better judgment. Even Ray-J's sincere attempts to be generous or helpful may be misinterpreted, or seen as pompousness or interference. Ray-J needs to be aware of his tendency to overdo - to go all out - even when it is not appropriate.
Ray-J may well have been discouraged from freely expressing himself. Moreover, he may be seriously inhibited by an overemphasis on being acceptable, conforming to certain standards and expectations, and generally not getting out of line.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Mercury Square Asc.
Venus Trine Asc.
Moon Sextile Asc.
Jupiter Quincunx Asc.
Saturn Quincunx Asc.