Nelly
challenges and difficulties

Cornell Haynes fears of becoming emotionally dependent upon others, and may distance himself or deny his needs for relationships of closeness and intimacy so that he will not be vulnerable to rejection or abandonment. On the other hand, Nelly may cling excessively or need constant reassurance from loved ones and family. Developing a deep, inner sense of security, as well as the ability to give and receive nurturing are important tasks for Nelly.

Nelly takes his commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. His strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Cornell Haynes a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but he often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between him and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Nelly and it may seem that he is always "working on" his marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Cornell Haynes will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.

Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Nelly instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Nelly needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.

It is easy for Nelly to become distracted from his path by the multitude of interesting choices, possibilities, and options available to him. Nelly needs to develop single mindedness and focus. Until Nelly directs his attention to some of the big questions, such as "What is my life's purpose?" "What is really important to me and essential to my happiness?", he is apt to dabble, scatter his energies in many directions and engage in activities which are entertaining but ultimately neither fruitful nor enriching.

Having an overall vision for his life and aligning his daily activities so that they support rather than detract from Cornell Haynes' larger purpose in life, is a significant step toward his personal development.

It is in any involvements he has with teams, clubs, organizations, networks, and the like that Nelly is most likely to wrestle with these issues. The qualities described above need to be channeled into some sort of group effort or experience, or have some impact on society at large.

The specific habits which are likely to hold Nelly back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:

Being bound to past events and experiences because of his desire to belong, deep attachments to family and the familiar (even if they are neither nourishing nor helpful), the desire to nurture or be nurtured by others, and a strong resistance to cutting the umbilical cord.

The following are specific activities that will support Nelly in his growth. These may or may not feel natural to Cornell Haynes, and he may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to his path to wholeness.

Nelly should become more aware of the spiritual side of life and its underlying unity by getting involved in charitable activities and opening up his psychic channels. Meditation that develops Cornell Haynes' intuitive abilities, as well as learning about the unseen side of life through his own dream experiences or altered states of awareness, can be important steps in Nelly's path.

Moreover, musical and artistic or imaginative endeavors will be important to him.

Cornell Haynes is a good team worker and has the ability to lead others. His relationships and associations with others tend to be harmonious and cooperative. Nelly may also have a very industrious family and he tends to be strongly tied to them.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Saturn in Cancer

Saturn in 7th house

N. Node in Sagittarius

N. Node in 11th house

N. Node Opposition Moon

N. Node Conjunct Neptune

N. Node Conjunct Mars/Asc.