challenges and difficulties
Mika Tan has a penchant for order and precision, and an almost compulsive attention to detail. She is often hypercritical and can be such a demanding perfectionist that she discourages herself or others from even attempting something that will not be done exactly the way Tan knows it should be done.
She frequently over analyzes or picks things apart mentally. Mika Tan may also be somewhat of a hypochondriac. Mika must learn that she does not have to rationally understand everything in order for it to be valid, and also to relax her unnecessarily high or strict standards.
Mika Tan takes her commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. Her strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Tan a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but she often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between her and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Mika Tan and it may seem that she is always "working on" her marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Tan will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Mika Tan instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Mika Tan needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Instinctively she is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, Mika stands alone when she does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. Mika Tan has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that she must be self-reliant and that only she can come up with the answers she needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate her from others, or make Mika Tan feel that "it is me against the world".
Social skills and graces and what Mika Tan calls social "games" do not come naturally to her. Mika Tan needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.
It is in relationships that are more than superficial or casual - in particular in cases where Mika Tan has merged emotionally, legally, or financially with another person - that she is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Tan will see these issues arise in close partnerships of any kind, especially when there is a mutual dependency involved. Dealing with in-laws, inheritances, and legal matters involving joint custody, shared assets, and resources is also a part of this.
The following are specific activities that will support Mika Tan in her growth. These may or may not feel natural to Tan, and she may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to her path to wholeness.
Mika Tan's path to wholeness involves confronting her dark and hidden recesses, bringing them out into the open, and transforming herself in the process. Healing abilities develop as a result of Tan's willingness to experience and transform deep emotions such as grief, anger, and pain. Furthermore, bringing light to the darkness and pain in the world without becoming overwhelmed by it is a significant challenge for Mika.
Her relationships with others may be rather unstable and unreliable. With a somewhat negative attitude and weak will, Mika Tan avoids opposition and escapes her responsibilities. In her relationships she is likely to choose people who are asocial.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Virgo
Saturn in 7th house
N. Node in Libra
N. Node in 8th house
N. Node Conjunct Pluto
N. Node Conjunct Mars/Neptune