approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Iris' basic stance toward life, the way others see her, the way Iris Berben comes across, the face she shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Iris Berben - her real motivation, which describes the kind of person she is at heart and where her true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Iris Berben" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Iris a little better. This page describes the disguise Berben wears, her role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
Cautious, prudent, and rather self-contained, she is a person who approaches life realistically and who is not inclined to take foolish chances or get carried away by the overly optimistic or idealistic schemes of starry-eyed dreamers. In fact, Iris Berben frequently has a jaundiced view of such things. She is rather worldly-wise at a fairly young age, even somewhat of a cynic. Often the world does not seem like a safe, friendly place to Berben, and she tends to approach life in a guarded, conservative manner. She is generally calculated and careful, and is rarely spontaneous, fluid, open, and childlike.
She is pragmatic, shrewd, and an excellent strategist, carefully planning her moves for maximum effectiveness and advantage. She is willing to work long and persistently for what she wants and she often does things the hard way. Iris does not expect others to take care of her and sometimes refuses or simply does not seek any outside help. She is often very ambitious, but quietly so. There is nothing flamboyant or flashy about her approach. She is very responsible, conscientious, and concerned with her duties to others and how she comes across socially - her "rank" so to speak.
To others Iris Berben seems mature, serious, quiet, reflective, and emotionally detached. Iris dislikes sloppy sentimentality and will not openly display her feelings, especially the more tender ones. Berben likes to always appear poised and in control; and she hates to show any weakness, vulnerability, or chinks in her armor.
Iris Berben respects tradition and the time-honored way of doing things, and she feels that there is much to be gained from studying history and also by learning from older, more experienced people. A wise mentor or father is often Berben's guide in life, and she in turn develops a great deal of hard-earned wisdom, which she likes to impart to younger people.
Iris Berben has a stern, authoritarian, no-nonsense aspect to her personality. She expects much from herself and may not give herself enough leeway to experiment and make mistakes.
She also tends to be rather close-fisted, to save and conserve her money and resources rather than spending or enjoying them. Iris Berben spends money on things of quality and of lasting value, things which are good investments, but not frivolous, temporary pleasures. There is a bit of the ascetic in her. Iris exercises great self-discipline and self-control and she can "do without" very well. Her tastes are generally understated and simple.
Though she may have other, more colorful and imaginative sides, the face Berben shows the world is modest and rather conservative.
Berben may seem unpredictable and unreliable in the way she behaves towards others - or her personal relationships may seem constantly in flux, so that Iris Berben is always a bit off center.
Iris Berben also come across as an independent sort, someone who does not wish to be controlled or dictated to.
Berben projects a feeling of broad-mindedness, generosity, and beneficence, a sense that she is someone others should listen to and treat with respect. Because Iris Berben generally makes such a favorable impression on people, many doors are open to her, and it may seem that she Iris somehow luckier than other people. Mostly this is due to the confidence that Iris Berben emanates.
In significant ways, Berben's emotional nature and personal needs are at odds with the way she presents herself. As a result of this inconsistency, Iris Berben may be uncomfortable showing her instinctive responses and true feelings. She may put them aside, maybe even be ashamed of them.
When Iris Berben is in an emotionally charged situation, those who do not know her well may be quite surprised at her reactions or behavior. The real challenge, though, is to completely accept herself, so that she does not act as if her emotional needs and impulses did not count for very much.
Iris Berben tends to be somewhat inhibited and may feel uncomfortable when she is with other people. Iris should try to avoid unpleasant, untruthful or deceptive individuals in order to prevent misunderstandings or disappointments.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Uranus Opposition Asc.
Jupiter Sextile Asc.
Moon Quincunx Asc.
Asc. Conjunct Neptune/N. Node