approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Billy's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Billy Wilder comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Billy Wilder - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Billy Wilder" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Billy a little better. This page describes the disguise Wilder wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if he strongly disagrees with someone, Billy Wilder will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. He often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Billy has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Billy Wilder very much wants to be liked and because of his need for approval and acceptance, Wilder is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. He so much wants to please that often Billy Wilder will suppress his own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Wilder's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
His need to create harmony extends to his physical environment and personal appearance as well. Billy Wilder appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. He does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From his home furnishings to his choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
He also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Wilder is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Billy possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to him and finding the right person to share his life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Billy Wilder - he is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases his self-confidence. Billy Wilder does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on his partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being himself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Billy.
Others see Billy Wilder as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to him, this is the sort of face Wilder shows to the world. He possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. His motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Billy Wilder usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
Despite the fact that his core self is quite a bit different from the face the world generally sees, Billy Wilder has a strong desire to be seen and recognized, to be acknowledged, and to have a significant influence on people in his environment. He may do remarkable things in order to be noticed. However, Billy Wilder often does not get the full recognition he wishes for.
His emotional responses, feelings, and prejudices come across to others quite clearly and Billy Wilder could be seen as a rather moody, inconsistent creature. On the other hand, he is not impersonal or removed, so people are drawn to confide in him. At times Wilder may wish he was not so easy to read.
At times his feisty spirit, aggressiveness, and a too-forceful approach get Billy into trouble. Billy Wilder tends to take offense when none was intended. He may be viewed as a troublemaker, an upstart, or an egotist with little concern for others. Billy Wilder needs to moderate his temper to avoid constant irritation with those in his environment.
Billy Wilder seems quirky, unusual, offbeat and "different". Sometimes it seems that he is trying to provoke people and upset the status quo just by being himself. Wilder tends to be restless, excitable, and somewhat ungrounded or nervous as well.
Billy Wilder has a sweet, appealing demeanor and seems instinctively to grasp the concept that "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar". His personal brand of charm is usually quite winning. Billy coax rather than coerce. However, if he does not get what he wants, Billy Wilder is likely to resort to insincere flattery, wheedling, whining, or pouting rather than stating directly what he needs, or doing for himself. Wilder seems to need others' approval first.
He is easily excitable and could find it difficult to sit still. Wilder always have something going on and is not afraid to take chances. Billy Wilder takes the initiative and has the ability to stimulate and sweep along others.
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