Although he is quite tolerant, giving and forgiving (as mentioned in the previous chapter), Béla Lugosi has a definite sense of fairness, balance and correct proportions, which prevent Béla from being completely happy in an exclusively benevolent role. Béla Lugosi really wants equal and reciprocal relationships - not ones that involve being someone else's servant or caregiver. However, Béla Lugosi needs to learn how to assert what he wants and needs, for he tends to "go with the flow" or simply wait for his needs to be met. Consequently, he may feel that he is never able to achieve equality in relationships and ends up being taken advantage of. Moreover, Béla should avoid the tendency to be evasive, indirect, and afraid to confront unpleasant issues. The honest and open relationships Lugosi seeks cannot be achieved if he is hiding something!
Harmony and balance are his keynotes. Béla Lugosi instinctively understands the need to accommodate other people's interests and desires, and he is always fair and willing to meet others half way. Tactful, diplomatic, and quite socially aware, Béla does all he can to avoid conflict and discord. His spirit is one of cooperation and compromise, and he often achieves through charm and discretion what would have been impossible to achieve with a direct, forceful approach.
Getting along with and pleasing others may be too important to Lugosi since he can be too dependent on the approval and opinions of other to make his own decisions. Lugosi will rarely act without seeking the counsel and feedback of other people. He prefers sharing and doing things with others rather than on his own. Being alone feels very unnatural to Béla Lugosi, and he has a strong need for a partner and intimate one-on-one relationships.
Béla Lugosi invests a great deal of his energy in personal love relationships and he is very idealistic and romantic about marriage. Béla Lugosi seeks a partner who is his equal intellectually, and who is capable of a mental relationship as well as a physical and emotional one. He makes a thoughtful, considerate friend or lover, and he enjoys the traditional symbols of love - courtship, flowers, etc. Lugosi perceives relationships like an art that requires time, attention and creative effort. Béla Lugosi appreciates a partner who is subtle and polished, never coarse or blunt.
Fairness and equality, both in his personal relationships and in the world, are extremely important to him. If Béla Lugosi fights about anything, it is often about something he feels is unfair and unbalanced. Balance is very important to Béla. He believes in moderation in all things and avoids fanaticism and extremism at all costs.
Béla Lugosi also has a strong need for beautiful, harmonious surroundings and a natural sense of artistic style and grace, which is reflected in the way Lugosi dresses and furnishes his home and workspace. Everything must be aesthetically pleasing and appropriate. Working with people as a counselor, advisor, consultant, or negotiator, or in an artistic field such as design or photography would be fulfilling to him.
Béla Lugosi invests a tremendous amount of his creative energy into his relationships with others, particularly his marriage or other close partnerships. Béla feels that he needs others in order to be all that he can be, and he is disinclined to solitary activities and endeavors.
Working with people on a one-to-one basis to bring about mutual understanding, harmony, and satisfaction is an area in which Béla Lugosi can really excel. Counseling or negotiating are talents of his.
Béla Lugosi tends to see things from his perspective only and to be rather subjective. He also enjoys talking and expressing his views but does not always listen as well. Béla Lugosi has a clear mind, a love of learning and new experiences, and he needs constant mental stimulation and activity.
Béla has lofty aspirations but does not struggle or labor to achieve them. His self-confidence and inner harmony attract success and benefit him in an almost magical way. His optimism and cheerful generosity also win Lugosi many allies and successes in life.
However he also has a more somber side, which keeps Lugosi's optimism from becoming ungrounded or overblown. Béla Lugosi tends to seesaw between his faith, vision and high aspirations, and his caution and realism (or fear!). He cannot and does not rely on good luck or grace alone, and he accepts the need for hard work. His skeptical or "somber" side is described below.
Béla has to overcome considerable hardship in order to fulfill his personal destiny. However, he does have the strength and stamina necessary to do so. Support and helpful guidance from his father or other significant men in his life may well be lacking. In fact, their disapproval of Béla and their harsh criticism are apt to be two of his greatest handicaps, and at times he may feel quite discouraged and alone. But true self-reliance and a solid sense of his own powers may well be the silver lining to that cloud in his life. Béla Lugosi needs to learn to follow his own creative impulses and heart's desires, regardless of what his critics or the authorities say.
He is apt to be a fanatic in some way, and cannot go halfway in anything he does. His extremism may seem (and actually be) obsessive and somewhat blind. That is, Béla Lugosi does not always consciously understand why he feels as driven or intense about a given course of action as he does. There is a strong element of fate or inevitability in Lugosi's life. A significant death or loss in his close relationships is apt to profoundly influence Béla Lugosi and shape important decisions in his life, and he may consciously seek out intense, life-or-death experiences as well.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Ascendant in Pisces and Sun in Libra
Sun in Libra
Sun in 7th house
Sun Conjunct Mercury
Sun Trine Jupiter
Sun aspects Jupiter and Saturn
Sun Quincunx Saturn
Sun Quincunx Pluto