challenges and difficulties
Alan Wilder has a great capacity for self-denial in the pursuit of a long-range goal. Alan is capable of hard work and persistent labor, but he may lack joyfulness and the ability to play. Alan Wilder often feels burdened by life's demands and responsibilities, and may envy those who seem to attract what they want in life without a great deal of personal effort.
There is a very judgmental, stern, and uncompromising side of Wilder's which may inhibit him a great deal. Alan Wilder must avoid becoming heavy and cynical, or becoming a rather callous, sophisticated adult whose practicality and realism squeeze out the playful, imaginative side of life.
He is very conscientious, responsible, and concerned with his duty, his public image and reputation, and becoming a person of stature in the world. Alan Wilder understands the need for hard work and careful planning in order to accomplish anything substantial and he is capable of much self-discipline and patience once he sets his sights on a goal.
But Alan Wilder is very judgmental and hard on himself if he fails to attain success, and he can become dry, bitter, or cynical if the world does not recognize his efforts.
His vitality tends to be a bit low and Alan may have to fight against the tendency to be inactive. Easily discouraged, Alan Wilder is inclined toward pessimism. Perhaps his upbringing was too authoritative, causing problems in his relationships with his parents.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Alan Wilder instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Alan Wilder needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Instinctively he is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, Alan stands alone when he does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. Alan Wilder has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that he must be self-reliant and that only he can come up with the answers he needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate him from others, or make Alan Wilder feel that "it is me against the world".
Social skills and graces and what Alan Wilder calls social "games" do not come naturally to him. Alan Wilder needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.
It is in his marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. He may see the qualities that he needs to develop more fully (described above) in his partner. It is important for Alan Wilder to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in his life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them himself. Alan Wilder has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about himself through others.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Alan Wilder back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Being bound to past events and experiences because of his desire to belong, deep attachments to family and the familiar (even if they are neither nourishing nor helpful), the desire to nurture or be nurtured by others, and a strong resistance to cutting the umbilical cord.
Alan Wilder has a strong desire to acquire a leading position in his community. Although he is very capable of assuming leadership, Alan also has a tendency to impose his will upon others. But in spite of that, he is likely to be successful.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Capricorn
Saturn in 10th house
Saturn Opposition Sun/Mars
N. Node in Libra
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Opposition Moon
N. Node Conjunct Mars/MC