approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Alan's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Alan Wilder comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Alan Wilder - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Alan Wilder" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Alan a little better. This page describes the disguise Wilder wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a gentle, sensitive person with a deep understanding of people and a very tolerant, accepting, non-judgmental approach towards life. In a noisy, competitive atmosphere Alan Wilder is often receding and withdrawn for he is not an aggressive, forceful person, and he intensely dislikes conflict. In fact Alan tends to be somewhat passive, to wait, watch, observe, feel and know much - but to act little. Letting things resolve or work themselves out in their own way, rather than directing or forcing his will upon them is often Wilder's way of dealing with problems.
Alan Wilder may have a deeply religious or spiritual feeling about life, not in the orthodox sense necessarily, but an intuitive sense of the immensity and underlying oneness of all life, which makes so many human aspirations seem rather unimportant. He needs peaceful surroundings in order to flourish, and periods of quiet solitude are essential for Wilder's emotional balance and well-being.
Alan Wilder is also very compassionate and cannot tolerate seeing any fellow creature suffer - be it human, animal, or even plant! As a child Alan Wilder probably cried very easily and became quite upset whenever others were hurt, physically or emotionally. The world of Wilder's imagination and fantasy was also very real to Wilder, a place to escape to when the outside world became too harsh, demanding, or simply uninteresting.
Because he is very giving and forgiving, people sense Wilder's sympathetic nature and gravitate toward him when in need. Often Wilder will continue to give to people even when he realizes they are taking advantage of him or becoming overly dependent upon him. Alan Wilder overlooks and makes excuses for other people's weaknesses, and for his own as well. Discrimination and self-discipline are not Wilder's strong points.
Though he may be as intelligent as anyone else, he does not really have a rational, logical approach toward life, and trying to reach Alan through logical arguments is often futile. His feelings, intuition, and heart, not his head, lead him, which may infuriate or bewilder Wilder's more rational friends. Alan Wilder certainly recognizes that there is much more to life than can be explained intellectually and categorized into neat little boxes, and Alan Wilder has an open, receptive attitude toward such areas as psychic phenomena, telepathy, parapsychology, etc. He is not as structured and rigid in his attitudes as many people are, which enables Alan Wilder to see many different points of view and to accept all of them as valid. This can lead to vagueness, uncertainty, and confusion on his part - or to a very flexible and holistic way of approaching any issue.
He may be seen as the wild card, the unpredictable or kooky one, because occasionally Alan Wilder does surprising things that are either totally out of character or are actually intended to shock people. There is an erratic quality or rebelliousness that comes across at odd moments. It seems to be Alan's role to shake things up a bit and he may not be entirely comfortable with this himself.
His life is never a secret to anyone, for Wilder likes to publicize his plans and let people know exactly where he stands. Others are drawn to Alan Wilder because of his ease in conversational ability and people often may seek his advice.
Alan Wilder seems to enjoy projecting himself differently to others than he really is, giving them a false impression of himself. He is inclined to associate with odd and peculiar people and is likely to have very strange romantic relationships.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Uranus Quincunx Asc.
Asc. Conjunct Mercury/MC
Asc. Opposition Venus/Neptune