challenges and difficulties
Tommy has difficulty asserting his will and desires directly and openly. He may also suppress his anger and aggressiveness. Developing self-confidence, courage, and faith in himself are important tasks for Sands.
His childhood or his relationships with his parents was restrictive, unloving, or unhappy in ways that may prevent Tommy from allowing other people to get close to him in later life. Tommy Sands felt deprived in some manner, whether or not he actually was deprived in some way. Emotional separations or repression of his needs and feelings may typify his early life, at least as Sands remembers it. Forgiving his parents and/or letting go of any resentments he has about the limitations that he experienced early in his life is crucial. Also, Tommy Sands needs to build his own solid foundation, and investing time and energy into his home, domestic relationships, and inner life can help Tommy accomplish this.
Sands may find it difficult to relate to people and express his feelings, especially in love relationships. On one hand, Tommy Sands wants relationships and on the other he would rather be by himself. A sense of personal inadequacy makes Tommy withdraw from others and feeling lonely as a result.
Around others Sands is somewhat humble and shy and prefer to be by himself. Tommy Sands tends to limit his relationships with others and associates only with like-minded people. He is inclined to be cool and reserved even toward those he loves.
He is not afraid of hard work and leaves no stone unturned in the pursuit of his objectives. Tommy Sands has a strong desire to overcome any difficulties or obstacles in his way and will do this at all cost, even if it means having to use force.
Not very adaptable, Tommy Sands tends to be rebellious and fight hard against oppression. This could even lead to violent incidents, so Tommy should try to keep his temper under control. He may have to work extremely hard and may have a lot of responsibilities that he cannot let go.
Tommy Sands may often be coerced into doing things that he does not want to do, leaving him frustrated, irritable and touchy. Tommy could turn hard and unforgiving toward others and may break up some important relationships.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Tommy Sands instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Tommy Sands needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
It is easy for Tommy Sands to become distracted from his path by the multitude of interesting choices, possibilities, and options available to him. Tommy Sands needs to develop single mindedness and focus. Until Tommy directs his attention to some of the big questions, such as "What is my life's purpose?" "What is really important to me and essential to my happiness?", he is apt to dabble, scatter his energies in many directions and engage in activities which are entertaining but ultimately neither fruitful nor enriching.
Having an overall vision for his life and aligning his daily activities so that they support rather than detract from Sands' larger purpose in life, is a significant step toward his personal development.
It is in his relationships with others that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. There is a dynamic balance (or conflict) within Tommy Sands between acting spontaneously and being true to himself versus modifying himself or his behavior to suit others. Tommy Sands seesaws between being inordinately concerned with his self to being overly conciliatory and concerned with others' needs, rights, or opinions about him. Learning to act authentically and forthrightly regardless of possible consequences is Sands' task.
The following are specific activities that will support Tommy Sands in his growth. These may or may not feel natural to Sands, and he may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to his path to wholeness.
Tommy Sands should become a warrior and cultivate a positive, victorious, active approach to life and to any problems he faces. It is in Sands' best interest to act on his own behalf instead of stalling, waiting or hoping someone else will do it for him. Tommy Sands needs to assert himself openly and courageously and not to be afraid to make mistakes or stumble; there are bound to be a few trial runs to any new initiative. Tommy needs to foster a healthy fighting spirit, pick himself up, and go! He also should learn to appreciate conflict and confrontation as a means to grow.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Aries
Saturn in 4th house
Saturn Opposition Venus/Mars
Saturn Opposition Venus/N. Node
Saturn Opposition Mars/Pluto
Saturn Opposition Pluto/N. Node
Saturn Opposition Pluto/Asc.
N. Node in Sagittarius
N. Node in 1st house
N. Node Conjunct Mars