challenges and difficulties
He is very self-conscious and has a great need for ego-affirmation and praise. Expressing himself freely and openly is not easy for Welling. Tom Welling tends to work hard at playing and "having fun", rather than being light-hearted and spontaneous. Developing self-love and self-acceptance regardless of his "performance" is an important task for Tom.
Tom Welling has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life that colors everything he does. Caution and realism are his virtues though Tom limits himself at times by being too careful, shy or fearful, not believing in himself enough, or lacking the required assertiveness. Others find Tom Welling difficult to get to know intimately, as Welling tends to distance himself from them or to outwardly adopt a rather stern, "adult" demeanor.
Tom Welling becomes tense and upset rather easily. He becomes irritated by the unwillingness of others to make changes. In his eagerness to see his inspirations materialize, Welling is inclined to forego tact and diplomacy in favor of achieving his goals. His occasional outbreaks of brusque, insensitive behavior often do more harm than good.
Tom dislikes tense or frustrating situations and has a strong desire to free himself from them. Acting quickly at times, Tom suddenly overcomes his inner inhibitions. Tom Welling also has the ability to aptly grasp difficult situations and to use them for his advancement.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Tom Welling instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Tom Welling needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Instinctively he is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, Tom stands alone when he does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. Tom Welling has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that he must be self-reliant and that only he can come up with the answers he needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate him from others, or make Tom Welling feel that "it is me against the world".
Social skills and graces and what Tom Welling calls social "games" do not come naturally to him. Tom Welling needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.
It is in trying to strike a balance between Welling's inner, personal life and his career or involvement with the world at large that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Tom Welling needs to focus attention on his home and family situation, and create a secure inner anchor.
He is very social, loves artistic events and entertainment, and has the ability to show his feelings without reservation. Tom Welling probably found joy in learning things early in life and he stays close to his family and other relations.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Leo
Saturn in 1st house
Saturn Square Uranus
Saturn Conjunct Mercury/Uranus
N. Node in Libra
N. Node in 4th house
N. Node Opposition Mercury/Venus