challenges and difficulties
Toby has difficulty asserting his will and desires directly and openly. He may also suppress his anger and aggressiveness. Developing self-confidence, courage, and faith in himself are important tasks for Stephens.
He is very conscientious, responsible, and concerned with his duty, his public image and reputation, and becoming a person of stature in the world. Toby Stephens understands the need for hard work and careful planning in order to accomplish anything substantial and he is capable of much self-discipline and patience once he sets his sights on a goal.
But Toby Stephens is very judgmental and hard on himself if he fails to attain success, and he can become dry, bitter, or cynical if the world does not recognize his efforts.
His faith, optimism, and sense of possibilities are tempered by a great deal of caution, and often doubt or skepticism as well. Whatever hopes or visions Toby Stephens has for his life are firmly held in check by his sense of reality. At times he may wish for more freedom, but Toby also fears it and holds back. Toby Stephens may blame practical limitations, some external condition or the prevailing Authority for his own inhibitions.
The side of Toby Stephens that wants and needs structure, order, stability, and a disciplined way of life is at odds with his urges for unfettered freedom, change, excitement, and discovery. There is apt to be much discontent, inner stress, and tension as a result, and at times Toby finds it hard to relax. Toby Stephens may act out in a rebellious way now and then, or clamp down hard on himself, in an attempt to strictly control his "wild" impulses. Stephens' task is to try to find a reasonable balance between order and creative chaos in his life.
At times Toby Stephens struggles with nebulous worries, insecurities and fears that may be difficult to pinpoint. Mostly, he may be afraid of getting acquainted with the inner workings of his mind and soul, feeling uneasy with anything irrational or intangible. Toby Stephens has to work hard to overcome being overly serious regarding the spiritual side of life, especially if his religious upbringing emphasized guilt and retribution. Reorienting himself in the direction of spiritual optimism will do much to lift the cloud of worry that settles over Toby occasionally.
His attitude toward life is quite serious and he is very thorough. Toby has the need to be by himself and think out everything very carefully before he takes action. Toby Stephens may enjoy doing some type of creative artwork involving hard or heavy materials.
His disposition is somewhat melancholic and Toby Stephens may have a rather pessimistic outlook. Toby has an inner need to be alone and to engage in deep meditation. Toby Stephens takes life seriously and may have been taught early on to learn from his mistakes.
Because he lacks self-confidence, Toby Stephens has the feeling that his luck has abandoned him. He is inclined to sit and wait for the right opportunities to come along, place too much emphasis on wishful thinking, and then get disappointed when nothing happens.
He is somewhat pessimistic and prone to depression. Toby Stephens may feel like withdrawing from everything, with the sense that he is not adequately equipped to handle his life. He may need someone else's point of view to balance his overly pessimistic outlook.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Toby Stephens instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Toby Stephens needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Cultivating the qualities of empathy, gentleness, and compassion will help counterbalance Stephens' deeply ingrained perfectionism and critical nature. When under stress, he is apt to try to rigorously analyze and focus on what needs to be corrected or improved, and he can easily become problem-oriented and lose sight of the big picture.
Toby Stephens has to learn to relax and surrender to the flow of events without having to figure everything out all the time. He should let his feelings and intuitions flow more freely, be more flexible and fluid, use his imagination and let his dreams emerge!
It is in fostering a personal vision or philosophy of life, whether through religious or philosophical studies, education or the wisdom of distant lands or cultures that Toby Stephens is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Toby Stephens needs to cultivate the qualities described above in this endeavor. Long distance communication and involvement with foreigners is likely to be significant to Stephens.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Toby Stephens back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Toby Stephens tends to over-rely on luck or grace, living for tomorrow and gambling. Toby is overconfident and tends to overextend himself and take on more than is humanly possible. Toby is often dogmatic about his philosophy of life or religious beliefs.
Going to extremes, willful rebelliousness and an instinctive anti-authoritarian attitude. Toby Stephens seeks constant (and often purposeless) movement or change, involvement with unreliable people, and individual freedom at any cost.
He is gay and cheerful in the company of others and happy to be with them. Toby Stephens is fond of telling jokes and is likely to entertain everyone. His relationships with others tend to be for a common purpose.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Aries
Saturn in 10th house
Jupiter Quincunx Saturn
Saturn Quincunx Uranus
Saturn Quincunx Neptune
Saturn Conjunct Mercury/Venus
Saturn Conjunct Mercury/MC
Saturn Opposition Jupiter/Neptune
Saturn Opposition Uranus/Neptune
N. Node in Pisces
N. Node in 9th house
N. Node Opposition Jupiter
N. Node Opposition Uranus
N. Node Opposition Jupiter/Uranus