challenges and difficulties
Paul Bern has a penchant for order and precision, and an almost compulsive attention to detail. He is often hypercritical and can be such a demanding perfectionist that he discourages himself or others from even attempting something that will not be done exactly the way Bern knows it should be done.
He frequently over analyzes or picks things apart mentally. Paul Bern may also be somewhat of a hypochondriac. Paul must learn that he does not have to rationally understand everything in order for it to be valid, and also to relax his unnecessarily high or strict standards.
Paul Bern takes his commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. His strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Bern a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but he often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between him and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Paul Bern and it may seem that he is always "working on" his marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Bern will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
Paul Bern strives and struggles a great deal with his ideals or spiritual aspirations. He may go through periods of self-denial, asceticism, and in-depth study of religious philosophy and spiritual practices, or he may lose heart and become cynical about religious ideals; however, he can never quite divorce himself from his idealistic concerns.
Once he decides what he wants to do, Paul Bern will pursue his goal tenaciously and, if necessary, sacrifice a great deal for his deeply felt convictions. This trait tends to make Paul feel a little out of step with others. Paul Bern takes things a little more seriously and has an inclination to be somewhat of a fanatic, although probably not flamboyantly so; as a result, others may not be aware of how deeply Paul feels and how driven he is about the things that are important to him. Paul Bern has a deep inner resolve and is willing to struggle to do the things that are really meaningful to him, rather than follow an easier but less meaningful course in life.
Paul Bern tends to experience inner conflicts between his responsibilities and his desires. Bern may give preference to duties over desires, which makes it very difficult for him to be truly happy.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Paul Bern instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Paul Bern needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
When under stress, Paul Bern is apt to shut off the flow of his emotions and ignore his needs and feelings in order to do what he perceives as his duty or simply what the practical realities of the situation dictate. This can lead to a certain rigidity and inflexibility. If overdone, self-control, self-discipline, or an exaggerated concern over what society, family or others expect of him, makes life more of a burden than an adventure.
Fostering his tender, caring, feminine, and nurturing aspects is an important step in Paul Bern's growth. Paul Bern needs to learn how to nourish and lovingly tend to both himself and others. Letting himself be taken care of sometimes is okay!
The arena he is most likely to wrestle with these issues is in playful self-expression, games or sports, and creativity. Paul Bern should try to develop any artistic, expressive, creative potentials he feels he possesses, utilizing the qualities described above.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Virgo
Saturn in 7th house
Saturn Square Neptune
Saturn Square Pluto
Saturn Opposition Moon/Jupiter
N. Node in Cancer
N. Node in 5th house