approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Norman's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Norman Mailer comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Norman Mailer - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Norman Mailer" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Norman a little better. This page describes the disguise Mailer wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a gentle, sensitive person with a deep understanding of people and a very tolerant, accepting, non-judgmental approach towards life. In a noisy, competitive atmosphere Norman Mailer is often receding and withdrawn for he is not an aggressive, forceful person, and he intensely dislikes conflict. In fact Norman tends to be somewhat passive, to wait, watch, observe, feel and know much - but to act little. Letting things resolve or work themselves out in their own way, rather than directing or forcing his will upon them is often Mailer's way of dealing with problems.
Norman Mailer may have a deeply religious or spiritual feeling about life, not in the orthodox sense necessarily, but an intuitive sense of the immensity and underlying oneness of all life, which makes so many human aspirations seem rather unimportant. He needs peaceful surroundings in order to flourish, and periods of quiet solitude are essential for Mailer's emotional balance and well-being.
Norman Mailer is also very compassionate and cannot tolerate seeing any fellow creature suffer - be it human, animal, or even plant! As a child Norman Mailer probably cried very easily and became quite upset whenever others were hurt, physically or emotionally. The world of Mailer's imagination and fantasy was also very real to Mailer, a place to escape to when the outside world became too harsh, demanding, or simply uninteresting.
Because he is very giving and forgiving, people sense Mailer's sympathetic nature and gravitate toward him when in need. Often Mailer will continue to give to people even when he realizes they are taking advantage of him or becoming overly dependent upon him. Norman Mailer overlooks and makes excuses for other people's weaknesses, and for his own as well. Discrimination and self-discipline are not Mailer's strong points.
Though he may be as intelligent as anyone else, he does not really have a rational, logical approach toward life, and trying to reach Norman through logical arguments is often futile. His feelings, intuition, and heart, not his head, lead him, which may infuriate or bewilder Mailer's more rational friends. Norman Mailer certainly recognizes that there is much more to life than can be explained intellectually and categorized into neat little boxes, and Norman Mailer has an open, receptive attitude toward such areas as psychic phenomena, telepathy, parapsychology, etc. He is not as structured and rigid in his attitudes as many people are, which enables Norman Mailer to see many different points of view and to accept all of them as valid. This can lead to vagueness, uncertainty, and confusion on his part - or to a very flexible and holistic way of approaching any issue.
Norman Mailer appears to be sweet to other people, and he knows how to use charm, persuasion and affection rather than more direct (but possibly disagreeable) methods to get his point across. He may be overly concerned with appearances and superficial beauty, in which case Norman Mailer may also seem vain and narcissistic to others.
Norman Mailer appears sympathetic and approachable. Because he uses his feelings and intuition to assess people, others sense that Mailer understands their feelings or their personal situations. At the same time Norman Mailer really wants people to know how he feels, and their care and support are very important to him.
Norman Mailer is quite excitable and very impatient and ready for a fight in a flash. Because of his impulsive and rash behavior, Mailer also tends to be accident-prone. Everything Norman Mailer does has to be done in a hurry and he expects the same of people in his surroundings.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Venus Square Asc.
Moon Trine Asc.
Asc. Conjunct Mars/Uranus