Lou Reed
in Relationships

He is very sensitive, cautious, and shy about showing others his feelings. Though he may love and care for someone a great deal, Lou Reed rarely expresses his feelings openly and freely. Very often Reed's love for someone is expressed by his wish to help him, do something tangible to benefit him or serve him in some way.

It is also difficult for him to receive warmth, affection or appreciation, for he often feels that he does not really deserve it or that "they do not really mean it". Reed may therefore come across as rather cool and aloof - much more so than he feels.

A deeply ingrained critical attitude often makes Lou difficult to live with. Lou Reed needs to learn to be gentler and less of a perfectionist with others and with himself.

Lou has strong attachments to his past, the place where he grew up, his heritage, and family traditions. In fact, Lou Reed may be unable to step out of the habits and roles that he learned as a child. Reed's tie to his mother is very strong and Lou Reed also seeks nurturing and protection from his spouse and other family members as well.

There is a side to Lou Reed which loves comfort and the easy life, and unless other factors in his chart indicate strong drive and ambition, Reed can be lazy and overly permissive with himself. He enjoys being taken care of and pampered, and self-indulgence is always a temptation for Reed. If Lou's parents made the unfortunate mistake of indulging him too much as a child, this may be a very hard habit to break. Lou Reed can be so soft and affectionate that it is hard to say no to him. Eating too many sweets is a vice Lou is particularly prone to.

He is open and unconventional in his attitude towards love relationships, romance and sex. He enjoys socializing, bringing people together and having many friends of both sexes. Lou Reed values friendship very highly and in fact, he is more comfortable being a friend than a lover. Lou desires an intellectual rapport or spiritual bond with his love partner, but deep intimacy and emotional bonding do not come easily to him. The traditional "husband" and "wife" roles do not appeal to Reed, and he abhors jealousy and possessiveness since he feels that no person truly "belongs" to another. Lou Reed appreciates relationships in which his love partner allows him plenty of freedom and is not very emotionally demanding.

Lou is attracted to foreigners, exotic places, traveling, and to people who can expand his horizons, teach him something, or show Reed places and worlds he has never experienced before. Sharing a philosophy or ideal with his love partner is important to him.

Also, Lou Reed feels love and kinship for people everywhere, not only with his own family, nationality, or group. Finding similarities and making links between people from differing backgrounds or with different perspectives is a gift of his.

Intimate relationships are the arena in which Lou Reed explores the depths he is capable of. He could fall intensely and fanatically in love and be obsessive, extraordinarily jealous or deeply involved with his partners. Reed will experience both heaven and hell in his closest relationships. There is undoubtedly a peculiarly karmic, fated quality to these relationships, which - though difficult - will teach Lou Reed things about himself and about love that he could not learn in any other way. Reed will often enter relationships which he realizes - rationally - will be very difficult, yet he cannot resist them, nonetheless. Lou Reed needs not to avoid berating himself for these "bad" choices; instead, he needs to learn what he can from them.

His attitude could be a bit too optimistic, especially in regards to love relationships. Lou Reed loves to day-dream and may have many romantic and erotic imaginations that never materialize. He may have a flair for writing beautiful love poems.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Virgo

Moon in 4th house

Moon Quincunx Venus

Venus in Aquarius

Venus in 9th house

Venus Opposition Pluto

Venus Opposition Jupiter/Neptune