approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of John's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way John Deacon comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner John Deacon - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner John Deacon" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know John a little better. This page describes the disguise Deacon wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if he strongly disagrees with someone, John Deacon will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. He often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. John has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. John Deacon very much wants to be liked and because of his need for approval and acceptance, Deacon is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. He so much wants to please that often John Deacon will suppress his own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Deacon's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
His need to create harmony extends to his physical environment and personal appearance as well. John Deacon appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. He does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From his home furnishings to his choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
He also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Deacon is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for John possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to him and finding the right person to share his life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to John Deacon - he is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases his self-confidence. John Deacon does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on his partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being himself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for John.
Others see John Deacon as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to him, this is the sort of face Deacon shows to the world. He possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. His motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for John Deacon usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
At times his feisty spirit, aggressiveness, and overly forceful approach get John into trouble. John Deacon tends to take offense when none was intended. He may be viewed as a troublemaker, an upstart, or an egotist with little concern for others. John Deacon needs to moderate his temper in order to avoid constant irritation with those in his environment.
John Deacon can get by in life almost on his personality alone. There is a radiant, warm, attractive quality about John that others cannot help responding to favorably. Usually he appears confident and clear about who he is, and it is very difficult not to notice him or feel his influence when Deacon is around.
In significant ways, Deacon's emotional nature and personal needs are at odds with the way he presents himself. As a result of this inconsistency, John Deacon may be uncomfortable showing his instinctive responses and true feelings. He may put them aside and may even be ashamed of them.
When John Deacon is in an emotionally charged situation, those who do not know him well may be quite surprised at his reactions or behavior. The real challenge, though, is to completely accept himself, so that he does not act as if his emotional needs and impulses did not count for very much.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Mars Square Asc.
Sun Sextile Asc.
Moon Quincunx Asc.