challenges and difficulties
Laurens both yearns for, and fears, being emotionally vulnerable to others and experiencing deep emotional intimacy. Trusting others and letting them get to know him intimately does not come easily to Jean-Paul, and sexual inhibitions may result from this. Jean-Paul Laurens is very self-protective and may be compulsively secretive. Learning to relinquish control in personal relationships, and to be completely open, is an important task for Laurens.
Jean-Paul Laurens has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life that colors everything he does. Caution and realism are his virtues though Jean-Paul limits himself at times by being too careful, shy or fearful, not believing in himself enough, or lacking the required assertiveness. Others find Jean-Paul Laurens difficult to get to know intimately, as Laurens tends to distance himself from them or to outwardly adopt a rather stern, "adult" demeanor.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Jean-Paul Laurens instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Jean-Paul Laurens needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Seeking harmonious interpersonal relationships, cooperation, and togetherness, as well as the desire to please or appease other people, are drives that come very naturally to Jean-Paul Laurens - so much so that he seeks them out at his own expense. When he is under stress, Laurens tends to look outside himself for approval or answers, and he leans on others too much. Therefore, developing self-reliance, and the courage to look inwardly for answers and forge his own path through life is a key factor in his self-development.
Jean-Paul Laurens is often tempted to be less than completely straightforward about his intentions or desires, and he can become enmeshed in a quagmire of "little white lies". Stark honesty - both inward and toward others - is the only way out! This, however, leads to the need to confront some of Laurens' most deeply ingrained fears, such as "what if they do not like me?" and "what if I have to go through this alone?".
Jean-Paul Laurens needs to cultivate his ability to be assertive, take initiative and act on his own behalf. Directness and self-reliance are imperative.
The arena he is most likely to wrestle with these issues is in playful self-expression, games or sports, and creativity. Jean-Paul Laurens should try to develop any artistic, expressive, creative potentials he feels he possesses, utilizing the qualities described above.
The following are specific activities that will support Jean-Paul Laurens in his growth. These may or may not feel natural to Laurens, and he may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to his path to wholeness.
Jean-Paul Laurens should develop true self-confidence and the willingness to put himself "out there", be seen and shine. Jean-Paul needs to be willing to take on a leading role. He needs to be a hero - a protagonist in his own story - by cultivating the courageous, active, and positive masculine qualities he possesses. Doing creative work that he is proud of - anything that comes from Laurens' heart and bears the stamp of Laurens' individuality - is important. Also, being a mentor, a helpful, encouraging force in the life of someone less experienced than he is a way for Jean-Paul Laurens to grow and become more whole himself.
Jean-Paul Laurens has to learn to communicate and express himself through the written or spoken word. It is best for Jean-Paul to study, learn skills and develop his intellectual interests and capacities. Laurens needs to become involved in sharing and exchanging information with others and in developing his intellectual reasoning ability. Jean-Paul Laurens should practice using his mind, his thinking skills and his ability to be objective. "Work smarter, not harder" might be a motto for him.
Writing, teaching, recording, transcribing, dialoguing, negotiating, mediating, communicating, or facilitating clear communication are significant activities for Jean-Paul Laurens to pursue.
Jean-Paul Laurens' path to wholeness involves confronting his dark and hidden recesses, bringing them out into the open, and transforming himself in the process. Healing abilities develop as a result of Laurens' willingness to experience and transform deep emotions such as grief, anger, and pain. Furthermore, bringing light to the darkness and pain in the world without becoming overwhelmed by it is a significant challenge for Jean-Paul.
Jean-Paul Laurens loves to show off the strength that he possesses and he has a strong desire to dominate others. Jean-Paul seems to have an exuberant craving for recognition and importance and a need to influence and lead large groups of people.
Jean-Paul Laurens thinks of others before he thinks of himself and is always ready to lend a helping hand. He is deeply concerned with the community he lives in, loves his family and relatives and has a strong need to maintain close relationships with them.
Jean-Paul Laurens has a vivacious and lively manner with a tendency to shock others at times by blurting out blunt comments. Jean-Paul loves to be with people, but tends to get overly excited when he is with them.
He is very obliging and always looks for relationships with other people. Jean-Paul Laurens tends to really feel at home with his family or in groups or associations that he may join. Jean-Paul has a strong desire to feel at one with his community.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Scorpio
Saturn in 1st house
N. Node in Aries
N. Node in 5th house
N. Node Conjunct Sun
N. Node Conjunct Mercury
N. Node Conjunct Pluto
N. Node Conjunct Sun/Pluto
N. Node Conjunct Moon/Venus
N. Node Conjunct Moon/Uranus
N. Node Opposition Asc./MC