approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Hilary's basic stance toward life, the way others see her, the way Hilary Rowland comes across, the face she shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Hilary Rowland - her real motivation, which describes the kind of person she is at heart and where her true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Hilary Rowland" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Hilary a little better. This page describes the disguise Rowland wears, her role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
She is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if she strongly disagrees with someone, Hilary Rowland will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. She often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Hilary has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Hilary Rowland very much wants to be liked and because of her need for approval and acceptance, Rowland is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. She so much wants to please that often Hilary Rowland will suppress her own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Rowland's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
Her need to create harmony extends to her physical environment and personal appearance as well. Hilary Rowland appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. She does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From her home furnishings to her choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
She also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Rowland is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Hilary possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to her and finding the right person to share her life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Hilary Rowland - she is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases her self-confidence. Hilary Rowland does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on her partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being herself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Hilary.
Others see Hilary Rowland as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to her, this is the sort of face Rowland shows to the world. She possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. Her motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Hilary Rowland usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
It may be hard for Hilary Rowland to hold her ground and she may be taken advantage of easily. Rowland displays little strength or force to others and may be quick to resign, despite having many longings, hopes, and wishes for the future.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Asc. Conjunct Sun/Neptune