challenges and difficulties
Granger both yearns for, and fears, being emotionally vulnerable to others and experiencing deep emotional intimacy. Trusting others and letting them get to know him intimately does not come easily to Farley, and sexual inhibitions may result from this. Farley Granger is very self-protective and may be compulsively secretive. Learning to relinquish control in personal relationships, and to be completely open, is an important task for Granger.
Farley Granger takes his commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. His strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Granger a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but he often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between him and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Farley Granger and it may seem that he is always "working on" his marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Granger will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Farley Granger instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Farley Granger needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Farley Granger's path lies in his development as an individual, the discovery of his own strengths and joys, the capacity to express his uniqueness and to stand out in a crowd. This involves becoming a leader, even though Granger's instinct is actually to be "one of the Indians" rather than the "chief". When under stress Farley Granger is apt to seek safety in numbers, to go along with the group. Also, he may believe that striving to do his personal best and to excel is wrong or selfish, but Farley should let go of this notion. Finding his own center and doing what gives him delight and energy is the most worthwhile contribution Farley Granger can offer the world at large.
The arena he is most likely to wrestle with these issues is in playful self-expression, games or sports, and creativity. Farley Granger should try to develop any artistic, expressive, creative potentials he feels he possesses, utilizing the qualities described above.
The following are specific activities that will support Farley Granger in his growth. These may or may not feel natural to Granger, and he may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to his path to wholeness.
He needs to give and receive affection, love and pleasure (primarily with the qualities described previously). Farley Granger has to learn to respond to, appreciate and create beauty, art, harmonious surroundings and relationships. He needs to be aware of aesthetics and to do things in a gracious, pleasing manner. Farley Granger has to start enjoying life, nurturing friendships and cultivating his ability to love and to receive love.
Farley Granger should become a warrior and cultivate a positive, victorious, active approach to life and to any problems he faces. It is in Granger's best interest to act on his own behalf instead of stalling, waiting or hoping someone else will do it for him. Farley Granger needs to assert himself openly and courageously and not to be afraid to make mistakes or stumble; there are bound to be a few trial runs to any new initiative. Farley needs to foster a healthy fighting spirit, pick himself up, and go! He also should learn to appreciate conflict and confrontation as a means to grow.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Scorpio
Saturn in 7th house
N. Node in Leo
N. Node in 5th house
N. Node Conjunct Venus
N. Node Conjunct Mars