challenges and difficulties
Darren has difficulty asserting his will and desires directly and openly. He may also suppress his anger and aggressiveness. Developing self-confidence, courage, and faith in himself are important tasks for Day.
Darren Day takes his commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. His strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Day a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but he often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between him and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Darren Day and it may seem that he is always "working on" his marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Day will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
The side of Darren Day that wants and needs structure, order, stability, and a disciplined way of life is at odds with his urges for unfettered freedom, change, excitement, and discovery. There is apt to be much discontent, inner stress, and tension as a result, and at times Darren finds it hard to relax. Darren Day may act out in a rebellious way now and then, or clamp down hard on himself, in an attempt to strictly control his "wild" impulses. Day's task is to try to find a reasonable balance between order and creative chaos in his life.
At times Darren Day struggles with nebulous worries, insecurities and fears that may be difficult to pinpoint. Mostly, he may be afraid of getting acquainted with the inner workings of his mind and soul, feeling uneasy with anything irrational or intangible. Darren Day has to work hard to overcome being overly serious regarding the spiritual side of life, especially if his religious upbringing emphasized guilt and retribution. Reorienting himself in the direction of spiritual optimism will do much to lift the cloud of worry that settles over Darren occasionally.
He is somewhat pessimistic and prone to depression. Darren Day may feel like withdrawing from everything, with the sense that he is not adequately equipped to handle his life. He may need someone else's point of view to balance his overly pessimistic outlook.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Darren Day instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Darren Day needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Seeking harmonious interpersonal relationships, cooperation, and togetherness, as well as the desire to please or appease other people, are drives that come very naturally to Darren Day - so much so that he seeks them out at his own expense. When he is under stress, Day tends to look outside himself for approval or answers, and he leans on others too much. Therefore, developing self-reliance, and the courage to look inwardly for answers and forge his own path through life is a key factor in his self-development.
Darren Day is often tempted to be less than completely straightforward about his intentions or desires, and he can become enmeshed in a quagmire of "little white lies". Stark honesty - both inward and toward others - is the only way out! This, however, leads to the need to confront some of Day's most deeply ingrained fears, such as "what if they do not like me?" and "what if I have to go through this alone?".
Darren Day needs to cultivate his ability to be assertive, take initiative and act on his own behalf. Directness and self-reliance are imperative.
It is in his marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. He may see the qualities that he needs to develop more fully (described above) in his partner. It is important for Darren Day to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in his life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them himself. Darren Day has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about himself through others.
Darren Day tends to be a bit too idealistic and may place too much hope in his relationships, resulting in frequent disappointments. Darren could be attracted to naive people, but some of his contacts may also turn out to be swindlers.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Aries
Saturn in 7th house
Saturn Quincunx Uranus
Saturn Quincunx Neptune
Saturn Opposition Uranus/Neptune
N. Node in Aries
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Opposition Jupiter/Neptune