approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Carolyn's basic stance toward life, the way others see her, the way Carolyn Murphy comes across, the face she shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Carolyn Murphy - her real motivation, which describes the kind of person she is at heart and where her true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Carolyn Murphy" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Carolyn a little better. This page describes the disguise Murphy wears, her role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
She is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if she strongly disagrees with someone, Carolyn Murphy will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. She often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Carolyn has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Carolyn Murphy very much wants to be liked and because of her need for approval and acceptance, Murphy is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. She so much wants to please that often Carolyn Murphy will suppress her own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Murphy's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
Her need to create harmony extends to her physical environment and personal appearance as well. Carolyn Murphy appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. She does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From her home furnishings to her choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
She also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Murphy is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Carolyn possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to her and finding the right person to share her life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Carolyn Murphy - she is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases her self-confidence. Carolyn Murphy does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on her partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being herself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Carolyn.
Others see Carolyn Murphy as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to her, this is the sort of face Murphy shows to the world. She possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. Her motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Carolyn Murphy usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
She is extremely willful, but she often achieves her desires in a quiet, secretive, or manipulative way. She may be intensely charismatic and wield considerable influence over others, or she may be attracted to similarly powerful, fascinating personalities. Carolyn Murphy tends to go to extremes in whatever she does, to be compulsive, and she is driven by a sense of mission or destiny. Carolyn does not take anything at face value and is always digging beneath the surface for the deeper meaning or real motivations of others.
Carolyn Murphy tends to blend in with and take on the characteristics of the people in her surroundings, and may thus not make a powerful individual statement of her own. She may project an aura of glamour or "make-believe", and enjoy trying on different personalities at different times.
Carolyn often comes across to others more abruptly or even antagonistically than is necessary to achieve her aims. And naturally if people perceive that she is trying to compete with them or run them over, some of them will put up a lot of resistance to Carolyn Murphy and her objectives. Murphy might be more successful if she tones herself down a bit and shows some consideration, without completely sacrificing her own needs and wants.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Pluto Conjunct Asc.
Neptune Sextile Asc.
Mars Quincunx Asc.