challenges and difficulties
Ben Kweller takes his personal relationships so seriously that they may seem more like work, constant effort and compromise, rather than a free and enjoyable sharing experience. He may feel that relationships in general require more of him than they are worth, and Ben enters into any close relationship cautiously and conscientiously. Ben Kweller also fears entrapment in close relationships.
Ben Kweller has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life that colors everything he does. Caution and realism are his virtues though Ben limits himself at times by being too careful, shy or fearful, not believing in himself enough, or lacking the required assertiveness. Others find Ben Kweller difficult to get to know intimately, as Kweller tends to distance himself from them or to outwardly adopt a rather stern, "adult" demeanor.
His aspirations and dreams are always tempered by realism and practical considerations. Ben Kweller pursues his aims in a systematic, disciplined and thorough manner, and he is willing to take his time, advancing slowly and steadily toward his goal.
Sometimes Ben Kweller underestimates what is possible, and holds himself back unnecessarily due to a lack of faith or an overly cautious attitude.
Basically shy, Kweller tends to be somewhat inhibited in love relationships and may feel uncomfortable or awkward expressing his love for someone. Ben Kweller longs for love relationships and dreams about love, but is also inclined to torment himself because of a seeming lack of affection.
Ben Kweller may often be coerced into doing things that he does not want to do, leaving him frustrated, irritable and touchy. Ben could turn hard and unforgiving toward others and may break up some important relationships.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Ben Kweller instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Ben Kweller needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Ben Kweller's path lies in his development as an individual, the discovery of his own strengths and joys, the capacity to express his uniqueness and to stand out in a crowd. This involves becoming a leader, even though Kweller's instinct is actually to be "one of the Indians" rather than the "chief". When under stress Ben Kweller is apt to seek safety in numbers, to go along with the group. Also, he may believe that striving to do his personal best and to excel is wrong or selfish, but Ben should let go of this notion. Finding his own center and doing what gives him delight and energy is the most worthwhile contribution Ben Kweller can offer the world at large.
It is in any involvements he has with teams, clubs, organizations, networks, and the like that Ben Kweller is most likely to wrestle with these issues. The qualities described above need to be channeled into some sort of group effort or experience, or have some impact on society at large.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Libra
Saturn in 1st house
Jupiter Conjunct Saturn
Saturn Conjunct Venus/Neptune
Saturn Conjunct Pluto/Asc.
N. Node in Leo
N. Node in 11th house