approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Ben's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Ben Kweller comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Ben Kweller - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Ben Kweller" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Ben a little better. This page describes the disguise Kweller wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
Modest, unobtrusive, and often rather quiet or shy, he is a person who is content to stay in the background or to serve as an assistant, in the supporting role rather than in the lead. He is quite humble in his own assessment of himself; he seeks perfection, with a tendency to be overly self-critical. No matter how well he does something, Ben Kweller always sees the flaws in it and how it could be improved. Often Kweller will simply refuse to attempt something because he feels he cannot meet his own high standards.
Ben Kweller has an eye for detail and he gets upset when something is not done just so, usually something others consider rather inconsequential or trivial. He is hard to please and his relationships with others may suffer because of this. Ben Kweller also has refined sensitivities and is very discriminating and particular in his choice of foods, clothes, friends, artwork, etc. Order in Kweller's environment is very important to Kweller.
Kweller steps into situations rather cautiously, and not without realistically assessing all of the risks and potential advantages involved. Unless something is a safe bet, he is unlikely to dive into it. Ben Kweller tends to underestimate his own capacities and to lack confidence and trust in life, which inhibits his spontaneity. Worrying is a bad habit of his. On the other hand, Ben rarely falls flat on his face and what he does, he does very well.
Others see Ben Kweller as a self-sufficient and rather self-contained person. Kweller has a strong sense of propriety. Politeness, good manners, and correct behavior are important to him. His clear, cool, objective and non-emotional attitude is apparent to others first, and though he is really quite helpful and caring, he does not radiate much sympathy and as a result, others may not see the helpful side as readily. Ben may seem more businesslike and factual as well as more conservative than he really is at heart. He is the person others might go to for technical advice or an unbiased opinion, but not for emotional support.
He is keenly observant, intelligent, and has a great desire for learning and for self-improvement, but he is not especially ambitious and is often satisfied with a rather simple, unglamourous position in life.
His emotional responses, feelings and prejudices come across to others quite clearly and Ben Kweller could come across as rather moody and fickle. On the other hand, he is not impersonal or removed, so people are drawn to confide in him. At times Kweller may wish he were not so easy to read.
At times his feisty spirit, aggressiveness, and overly forceful approach get Ben into trouble. Ben Kweller tends to take offense when none was intended. He may be viewed as a troublemaker, an upstart, or an egotist with little concern for others. Ben Kweller needs to moderate his temper in order to avoid constant irritation with those in his environment.
Ben Kweller has a sweet, appealing demeanor and seems instinctively to grasp the concept that "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar". His personal brand of charm is usually quite winning. Ben coaxes rather than coerces. However, if he does not get what he wants, Ben Kweller is likely to resort to insincere flattery, wheedling, whining or pouting rather than stating directly what he needs, or doing it for himself. Kweller seems to need others' approval first.
He is easily excitable and could find it difficult to sit still. Kweller always has something going on and is not afraid to take chances. Ben Kweller takes the initiative and has the ability to stimulate and sweep others along.
Ben has strong leadership qualities and finds it natural to take charge of his family environment. He throws himself wholeheartedly into all of his endeavors and does not like others to make demands on him, but Ben Kweller will willingly give of himself in most situations.
His attitude toward life is governed by his feelings and Ben Kweller tends to seek cordial understanding with others. Ben has the ability to perceive other peoples' spiritual needs, and trusting his judgment, they are likely to come to Kweller for advice.
Ben Kweller has a strong need to influence others and to dominate his home or environment. He is likely to join associations with large groups of people and some of Kweller's relationships will be very important to him and possibly affect his future.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon Square Asc.
Mars Square Asc.
Venus Sextile Asc.
Asc. Conjunct Sun/Uranus
Asc. Opposition Moon/Mars
Asc. Opposition Moon/MC
Asc. Conjunct Pluto/N. Node