challenges and difficulties
Víctor Valdés takes his personal relationships so seriously that they may seem more like work, constant effort and compromise, rather than a free and enjoyable sharing experience. He may feel that relationships in general require more of him than they are worth, and Víctor enters into any close relationship cautiously and conscientiously. Víctor Valdés also fears entrapment in close relationships.
Víctor Valdés takes his commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. His strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Valdés a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but he often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between him and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Víctor Valdés and it may seem that he is always "working on" his marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Valdés will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
He is suspicious of groups, crowds, and social organizations. Valdés is quick to pick up on social charades and insincerity and avoids the limelight and glamour. Víctor Valdés is direct and to the point in speech and manner, stubborn and inflexible, and often unwilling to communicate his innermost feelings and thoughts.
Because of his inner reserve and basic shyness, Víctor Valdés appears to lack the ability to adapt and is a bit inhibited when dealing with other people. His approach is somewhat serious and it is difficult for Víctor to face the public.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Víctor Valdés instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Víctor Valdés needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
When under stress, Víctor Valdés is apt to shut off the flow of his emotions and ignore his needs and feelings in order to do what he perceives as his duty or simply what the practical realities of the situation dictate. This can lead to a certain rigidity and inflexibility. If overdone, self-control, self-discipline, or an exaggerated concern over what society, family or others expect of him, makes life more of a burden than an adventure.
Fostering his tender, caring, feminine, and nurturing aspects is an important step in Víctor Valdés' growth. Víctor Valdés needs to learn how to nourish and lovingly tend to both himself and others. Letting himself be taken care of sometimes is okay!
It is in trying to strike a balance between Valdés' inner, personal life and his career or involvement with the world at large that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Víctor Valdés needs to focus attention on his home and family situation, and create a secure inner anchor.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Víctor Valdés back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Being excessively egocentric or proud, needing personal recognition and applause, wanting to be center stage all the time, needing to be important and special.
Víctor Valdés has a very affectionate attitude toward others and the capacity to love a lot of people. There probably is a very deep bond between Víctor and his friends, and when he falls in love, Víctor Valdés is likely to love just as deeply.
Víctor Valdés tends to have deep bonds with the people he associates with and is likely to encounter some unusual or fated relationships. Some of his contacts could be with very influential people who may be of help to Valdés in the future.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Libra
Saturn in 7th house
Saturn Conjunct Pluto
Saturn Opposition Sun/N. Node
N. Node in Cancer
N. Node in 4th house
N. Node Opposition Sun
N. Node Opposition Venus/MC
N. Node Opposition Pluto/Asc.