challenges and difficulties
Traci has difficulty asserting her will and desires directly and openly. She may also suppress her anger and aggressiveness. Developing self-confidence, courage, and faith in herself are important tasks for Lords.
Traci Lords takes her commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. Her strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Lords a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but she often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between her and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Traci Lords and it may seem that she is always "working on" her marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Lords will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
Traci Lords tends to be her own worst enemy, demanding inhuman perfection of herself and harshly criticizing or persecuting herself when she does not measure up. Perhaps circumstances or relationships in her life have been extremely difficult and demanding, reinforcing Traci's belief that she must struggle alone.
She is capable of tremendous effort and of overcoming great odds and handicaps. Through these efforts Traci Lords develops her power and inner strength. However, Traci Lords should not make life harder than it is. She must give herself permission to let up sometimes, and to realize that she is only human.
Traci Lords tends to be very sensitive to her surroundings and is strongly influenced by the prevailing conditions around her. Traci may feels that she has more obligations than she can properly handle, and that it is hopeless to even try.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Traci Lords instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Traci Lords needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Seeking harmonious interpersonal relationships, cooperation, and togetherness, as well as the desire to please or appease other people, are drives that come very naturally to Traci Lords - so much so that she seeks them out at her own expense. When she is under stress, Lords tends to look outside herself for approval or answers, and she leans on others too much. Therefore, developing self-reliance, and the courage to look inwardly for answers and forge her own path through life is a key factor in her self-development.
Traci Lords is often tempted to be less than completely straightforward about her intentions or desires, and she can become enmeshed in a quagmire of "little white lies". Stark honesty - both inward and toward others - is the only way out! This, however, leads to the need to confront some of Lords' most deeply ingrained fears, such as "what if they do not like me?" and "what if I have to go through this alone?".
Traci Lords needs to cultivate her ability to be assertive, take initiative and act on her own behalf. Directness and self-reliance are imperative.
It is in her marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that she is most likely to wrestle with these issues. She may see the qualities that she needs to develop more fully (described above) in her partner. It is important for Traci Lords to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in her life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them herself. Traci Lords has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about herself through others.
The following are specific activities that will support Traci Lords in her growth. These may or may not feel natural to Lords, and she may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to her path to wholeness.
Traci Lords should foster self-discipline and learn to handle responsibility. She may shoulder an inordinate amount of responsibility as well as burdens that sometimes limit Lords' activities and opportunities in life. However, this is a maturing and ultimately empowering process. She is also likely to be offered positions of tremendous responsibility, whether Traci really wants such jobs or not, usually because she has invested real effort and made some sort of substantial contribution.
There may be considerable obstacles in her path - more adversity than others seem to face - and Lords' task is to learn to cope with pressure and persevere.
She may have the feeling that she constantly has to surrender to the wishes of other people and she gives the impression of having a passive or indifferent role in her relationships. Traci Lords never takes the initiative and depends on the support of groups she is affiliated with.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Aries
Saturn in 7th house
Saturn Quincunx Pluto
Saturn Opposition Moon/Neptune
N. Node in Aries
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Conjunct Saturn
N. Node Opposition Moon/Neptune