challenges and difficulties
Tom has difficulty asserting his will and desires directly and openly. He may also suppress his anger and aggressiveness. Developing self-confidence, courage, and faith in himself are important tasks for Hayden.
Tom Hayden has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life which colors everything he does. Caution and realism are his virtues though Tom limits himself at times by being too careful, shy, or fearful, and not believing in himself enough or being assertive when necessary. Others find Tom Hayden difficult to get to know intimately, as Hayden tends to distance himself from them or to put forth a rather stern, "adult" face to the world.
At times Tom Hayden struggles with nebulous worries and insecurities, fears which may be difficult to name. Mostly, he may be afraid of getting acquainted with the inner workings of his mind and soul, feeling uneasy with anything irrational or intangible. Tom Hayden has to work hard to overcome being overly serious regarding the spiritual side of life, especially if his religious upbringing emphasized guilt and retribution. Reorienting himself in the direction of spiritual optimism will do much to lift the cloud of worry that settles over Tom occasionally.
Tom Hayden has a desire to break away from tradition and to free himself from restricting conditions. Somewhat inflexible and rigid, he may suddenly become inhibited before he initiates his objectives, which could work out to Hayden's disadvantage.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Tom Hayden instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Tom Hayden needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Instinctively he is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, Tom stands alone when he does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. Tom Hayden has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that he must be self-reliant and that only he can come up with the answers he needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate him from others, or make Tom Hayden feel that "it is me against the world".
Social skills and graces and what Tom Hayden calls social "games" do not come naturally to him. Tom Hayden needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.
It is in his marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. He may see the qualities that he needs to develop more fully (described above) in his partner. It is important for Tom Hayden to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in his life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them himself. Tom Hayden has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about himself through others.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Tom Hayden back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Tom Hayden's rigid self-control overly restricts his ability to freely express himself or explore possibilities. He is excessively concerned with work, duty and security. He tends to be fearful, judgmental towards himself or others, and can feel alone and cut off from sources of nourishment outside himself. Tom Hayden should try to learn to relax and recognize that not everything is Hayden's responsibility.
He enjoys relationships with others who can tune into the spiritual world and Tom Hayden is likely to join groups or associations that sponsor psychics and that explore the connection with karmic influences.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Aries
Saturn in 1st house
Saturn Quincunx Neptune
Saturn Conjunct Jupiter/Uranus
N. Node in Libra
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Opposition Saturn
N. Node Conjunct Mercury/Neptune