She is very sensitive, cautious, and shy about showing others her feelings. Though she may love and care for someone a great deal, Tia Tanaka rarely expresses her feelings openly and freely. Very often Tanaka's love for someone is expressed by her wish to help her, do something tangible to benefit her or serve her in some way.
It is also difficult for her to receive warmth, affection or appreciation, for she often feels that she does not really deserve it or that "they do not really mean it". Tanaka may therefore come across as rather cool and aloof - much more so than she feels.
A deeply ingrained critical attitude often makes Tia difficult to live with. Tia Tanaka needs to learn to be gentler and less of a perfectionist with others and with herself.
Tia Tanaka often makes decisions solely for emotional or personal reasons, because something "feels right" or because she has always done it a certain way and is uncomfortable acting otherwise. Even when Tanaka thinks she is being rational, her prejudices, intuitions and feelings influence her thoughts a great deal. Tia is comfortable talking about feelings and personal subjects, and sharing confidences, which enables others to express their own inner feelings with her as well. Tia Tanaka has good psychological insight into others.
She is assertive and confronts difficulties in a direct, no-nonsense sort of way. Tia Tanaka cannot tolerate self-pity or passivity, and she can be rather brusque with others' emotional problems. "Stop crying and do something about it" might be Tanaka's motto.
Although Tanaka gets hot under the collar rather easily (as mentioned above), she also has a certain degree of emotional self-control and composure, which enable Tia Tanaka to rein in some of her more aggressive tendencies. This side of her is described below.
Tia Tanaka often feels that she must do something or be something other than what she is in order to receive approval and acceptance from others. She is very sensitive to criticism and easily feels left out or neglected, and though she may appear cool or distant, Tanaka actually cares very much about being included. Because she is so sensitive, it may seem easier for Tia Tanaka to withdraw into a shell rather than risk the emotional bumps and bruises she may endure once she lets others really know her in an intimate, personal way. Her reserve and caution make establishing close emotional relationships with others difficult, and Tia Tanaka becomes very attached to the few people she considers "real friends". Tanaka can gain inner security and strength through periods of solitude if she views them as times to nourish herself and develop her own interests, rather than as times of loneliness.
Her relationships have an emotional overtone and Tia Tanaka has a strong desire to share her feelings with others. Her circle of friends is likely to be large and Tia enjoys many pleasant meeting with them.
She is open and unconventional in her attitude towards love relationships, romance and sex. She enjoys socializing, bringing people together and having many friends of both sexes. Tia Tanaka values friendship very highly and in fact, she is more comfortable being a friend than a lover. Tia desires an intellectual rapport or spiritual bond with her love partner, but deep intimacy and emotional bonding do not come easily to her. The traditional "husband" and "wife" roles do not appeal to Tanaka, and she abhors jealousy and possessiveness since she feels that no person truly "belongs" to another. Tia Tanaka appreciates relationships in which her love partner allows her plenty of freedom and is not very emotionally demanding.
Tia Tanaka craves very intense, deep, emotional relationships, and would even prefer stormy, tumultuous relationships to ones that are calm but lack vitality and passion. Tia loves wholeheartedly and expects all-consuming, total devotion and attention from her partner. Casual, light relationships hold no appeal for Tanaka.
She is intensely amorous and attractive to the opposite sex, and is not inclined to friendly platonic relationships. There is a great deal of tension in her love relationships - often because Tia Tanaka puts her desires ahead of her partner's, and is impatient to have her love needs satisfied. The whole arena of love relationships, romance and sex is endlessly fascinating to Tia Tanaka and she is not happy without a love partner. Tanaka can "burn herself out" by pouring so much of her energy into romance.
Tia Tanaka experiences powerful, compelling emotional and sexual attractions, and she may feel that she has little choice or control over her desires. Tia Tanaka has an intense need for love and may be emotionally greedy or insatiable. Her love relationships are passionate and often tumultuous and painful as well. Jealousy, power struggles or possessiveness can become areas of conflict in her relationships. On the positive side, Tia Tanaka can be unusually creative and bring about beneficial and healing changes in the lives of others, motivated by her deeply felt love.
Tia Tanaka has a very erotic and sexual nature and may often find herself drawn to another person by a kind of inner compulsion. Tanaka could become quite obsessed by someone and she has a tendency to control and manipulate her relationships.
Her attraction to someone may come very suddenly and Tia Tanaka loves the excitement of new love relationships. But her attachments may be less than conventional, Tanaka changes them quickly, and she is likely to have many affairs. She may not be very selective in her contacts.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Virgo
Moon in 3rd house
Moon Trine Mars
Moon aspects Mars and Saturn
Moon Square Saturn
Moon Opposition Mercury/N. Node
Venus in Aquarius
Venus in 8th house
Venus Square Mars
Venus Square Pluto
Venus Opposition Mars/Pluto
Venus Conjunct Jupiter/Uranus