Thomas Merton
in Relationships

Warm, loving and generous in his relationships, Thomas Merton inspires tremendous devotion and loyalty in his loved ones. This is good, since he would never settle for anything less! Thomas wants to be adored and worshipped like the royalty he feels he is, and it is difficult for anyone to resist the warmth and attention Merton lavishes on those he cares about. Thomas Merton has a great deal of pride and needs to be recognized and appreciated. The way to really hurt his feelings is to ignore him. He is genuine, sincere, and has a strong sense of personal integrity. Thomas Merton hates emotional games and dishonesty.

He is emotionally expressive and often dramatizes his feelings, acting them out or blowing them out of proportion. Thomas Merton cannot hide his instinctive emotional reactions to people or situations, and he does not make any pretenses about his personal sympathies or antipathies.

Thomas Merton has a childlike openness and playfulness which is very appealing to others, but which sometimes gets him into trouble, as Thomas takes risks on impulse or whim.

His childhood and early home life was in many ways unsettling, and the nurturing Merton received was erratic and unreliable at best. Thomas Merton has had to move a lot, or Merton's family may have been blatantly different from other people so that Thomas was often deemed an outsider or a "weirdo". As an adult, Thomas Merton may long for "normalcy" while at the same time he balks at any routine, structure, formality or restrictions.

Thomas Merton often becomes nervous or shaky when emotionally stressed. Developing a regular rhythm and a steady, consistent (if not traditional) way of life would be beneficial to Merton, both emotionally and physically.

His thinking and acting are strongly influenced by his feelings. Thomas has great mental energy, is somewhat restless, curious and impatient, and at times he may need to slow down. Thomas Merton loves debate and argument and also has good writing ability.

His attitude toward other people is very emotional and Thomas Merton feels a certain soul affinity with them. Thomas has an inner need to express his feelings to others and is especially partial to groups where he can help to further their accomplishments.

In love relationships, Thomas Merton seeks companionship and friendship with someone who is fun loving, playful and open to adventure and new experiences. He enjoys traveling together, meeting new people and making new friends. Honeymooning in a distant location appeals to Thomas, and he is also attracted to foreigners or people with diametrically different backgrounds than his own. Thomas Merton supports his partner in taking risks and making positive changes, rather than preserving the status quo. He also very much wants a partner who will encourage his own aspirations and dreams. It is very important to Thomas that he have a spiritual or intellectual rapport with his love partner, perhaps more important than the emotional/physical aspect. Thomas Merton is not especially sentimental and his love partner may feel that he is too casual and not serious or romantic enough.

Thomas is attracted to foreigners, exotic places, traveling, and to people who can expand his horizons, teach him something, or show Merton places and worlds he has never experienced before. Sharing a philosophy or ideal with his love partner is important to him.

Also, Thomas Merton feels love and kinship for people everywhere, not only with his own family, nationality, or group. Finding similarities and making links between people from differing backgrounds or with different perspectives is a gift of his.

Feelings of loneliness, extreme shyness and/or the fear of rejection plague Thomas Merton and may well inhibit him from expressing warmth and affection in an open way. Denying himself pleasure, comfort, and "nice things" due to feelings of unworthiness can also limit the joy Thomas allows himself. Heartache and a loss of love in his life - perhaps while quite young - will serve to either close his heart to love or cause him to deeply cherish the friends and love he receives from others. The saying that "true love is hard to find" is certainly true for Thomas Merton, but he will value it tremendously when it does come into his life.

The feeling that "there is not enough for me" may cause him to be very frugal and stingy with money as well.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Leo

Moon in 5th house

Moon Opposition Uranus

Moon Opposition Mercury/Mars

Moon Opposition Mars/N. Node

Venus in Sagittarius

Venus in 9th house

Venus Opposition Saturn