Stephen Crane
in Relationships
He is very sensitive, cautious, and shy about showing others his feelings. Though he may love and care for someone a great deal, Stephen Crane rarely expresses his feelings openly and freely. Very often Crane's love for someone is expressed by his wish to help him, do something tangible to benefit him or serve him in some way.
It is also difficult for him to receive warmth, affection or appreciation, for he often feels that he does not really deserve it or that "they do not really mean it". Crane may therefore come across as rather cool and aloof - much more so than he feels.
A deeply ingrained critical attitude often makes Stephen difficult to live with. Stephen Crane needs to learn to be gentler and less of a perfectionist with others and with himself.
Crane works well with the public and has an instinct for what the public wants and will respond to. Having a "nest" is not especially important to Stephen, and he may invest more of his emotional energy into his career or public life than in his private life. Providing and caring for others, in a professional capacity is very likely.
There is a side to Stephen Crane which loves comfort and the easy life, and unless other factors in his chart indicate strong drive and ambition, Crane can be lazy and overly permissive with himself. He enjoys being taken care of and pampered, and self-indulgence is always a temptation for Crane. If Stephen's parents made the unfortunate mistake of indulging him too much as a child, this may be a very hard habit to break. Stephen Crane can be so soft and affectionate that it is hard to say no to him. Eating too many sweets is a vice Stephen is particularly prone to.
He is easygoing, agreeable and tolerant, willing to overlook others' mistakes, forget the past, and begin anew on a positive note. He enjoys making others comfortable and happy, and he sometimes overdoes his generosity. Stephen Crane often feels that "everything will turn out all right no matter what I do", thereby becoming lazy and lackadaisical.
Stephen has very deep feelings and profound attachments to people he cares about. His relationships to his mother, sisters, daughters, and other females in his life are apt to be incredibly close and intense. Stephen Crane may be easily manipulated too, when it comes to one of these important relationships, because he is so emotionally invested in it.
Stephen Crane responds in a strong emotional way to the influence of his environment and has a need to reform those around him. Stephen has a very powerful psychic influence on others and they may look to Crane for guidance and direction, and he rarely lets them down.
He is definitely not one to wear his heart on his sleeve. Stephen Crane cares very much about others' opinions and craves love and appreciation as much as anyone - however one would never know it from Crane's reserved and seemingly detached demeanor. Casual, superficial relationships do not interest Stephen at all. He is cautious and serious about love and really desires deep, genuine, lasting relationships. Stephen Crane is old-fashioned about courtship and love relationships, and will remain faithful to his loved one in good times and in bad.
Stephen Crane may be attracted to older persons who are emotionally mature and reliable and can provide the security Stephen desires.
Beautiful, elegant, and harmonious surroundings are very important to Stephen Crane, and he has an innate sense of style, design, and form. Socially, also, good form and politeness are important to Crane and he instinctively avoids crudeness and dissonance.
He enjoys talking about love, relationships, art and the beautiful side of life. Stephen Crane appreciates artistic people.
Stephen Crane shares whatever he has freely and his friends know they can always count on Stephen's generosity and support - both emotional and material. His good-hearted acceptance and tolerance of others' foibles goes a long way toward maintaining harmony in his relationships. Stephen Crane also has a lazy streak and sometimes avoids confronting difficult issues in relationships simply because it seems like too much trouble and too petty. Stephen likes to socialize and will use any excuse to celebrate with friends. He cannot tolerate being overly restricted by his love partner, and encourages his partner's freedom as well.
Stephen's pleasure-loving nature and his emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing his affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Stephen Crane is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times he is far more contained as described here. Because he is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Crane is to being left out or unappreciated.
Feelings of loneliness, extreme shyness and/or the fear of rejection plague Stephen Crane and may well inhibit him from expressing warmth and affection in an open way. Denying himself pleasure, comfort, and "nice things" due to feelings of unworthiness can also limit the joy Stephen allows himself. Heartache and a loss of love in his life - perhaps while quite young - will serve to either close his heart to love or cause him to deeply cherish the friends and love he receives from others. The saying that "true love is hard to find" is certainly true for Stephen Crane, but he will value it tremendously when it does come into his life.
The feeling that "there is not enough for me" may cause him to be very frugal and stingy with money as well.
Stephen Crane tends to be attracted to people who are not quite what they seem. Gullible, romantic and rather easily seduced, Stephen frequently falls in love with an image in his own mind, which he then projects onto the object of his affections, only to discover later that this person never really had the lovely qualities he endowed her with. Stephen Crane also confuses love relationships with pity, sacrifice, or misplaced notions of "selfishness", thereby setting himself up to be taken advantage of. He is capable of great devotion to a spiritual cause, for he is actually seeking some sort of transcendent or mystical experience through love.
He is prone to get involved in highly intense, even obsessive relationships - "fatal attractions", so to speak. At its darkest, this urge for intensity in the personal arena may compel Stephen Crane to choose friends or mates who are rather dangerous or dishonorable characters with a penchant for manipulating and inflicting pain on their "loved ones". On the other hand, Crane may be tempted to use his own sexuality or charm to play the same sort of game, to use love or friendship as a bargaining chip or to gain power over others. Even if his intentions are basically good, Stephen Crane will find that his closest relationships are rather tumultuous affairs in which some rather unlovely aspects of his (such as jealousy and the desire to dominate or to be a victim) keep showing their faces. These are qualities that need to be understood and ultimately outgrown.
His personal relationships are very affectionate. Stephen enjoys the company of other people and has a harmonious attitude toward them. Stephen Crane also has a sense of art and may decorate his surroundings very artistically.
His energy and initiative seem to be a bit weak and could frequently inhibit Stephen's sex life. His unrealistic ideals about relationships could lead to disillusionment, and Stephen Crane may feel that real mortals are disappointing, and prefer his fantasies.
He is inclined to be rather quiet and humble and go about his business in a very modest way. Feeling sad frequently, Stephen Crane does not seem to have much interest in becoming involved in love relationships.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Virgo
Moon in 10th house
Moon Quincunx Venus
Moon Trine Jupiter
Moon Sextile Pluto
Moon Conjunct Pluto/Asc.
Venus in Capricorn
Venus in 3rd house
Venus Square Jupiter
Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn
Venus Opposition Saturn
Venus Opposition Neptune
Venus Quincunx Pluto
Venus Opposition Jupiter/Asc.
Venus Opposition Saturn/Neptune
Venus Opposition Saturn/MC
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