challenges and difficulties
Shiri Appleby has a penchant for order and precision, and an almost compulsive attention to detail. She is often hypercritical and can be such a demanding perfectionist that she discourages herself or others from even attempting something that will not be done exactly the way Appleby knows it should be done.
She frequently over analyzes or picks things apart mentally. Shiri Appleby may also be somewhat of a hypochondriac. Shiri must learn that she does not have to rationally understand everything in order for it to be valid, and also to relax her unnecessarily high or strict standards.
Shiri Appleby takes her commitments to others very seriously, especially in close one-to-one relationships. Her strong sense of responsibility to the other person makes Appleby a trustworthy and dedicated partner, but she often feels that marriage or any binding commitment between her and another person is too restrictive and burdensome, and thus seeks to avoid it. Close relationships may be more work than pleasure for Shiri Appleby and it may seem that she is always "working on" her marriage rather than enjoying it. However, Appleby will persevere and ultimately grow through the process.
Shiri Appleby strives and struggles a great deal with her ideals or spiritual aspirations. She may go through periods of self-denial, asceticism, and in-depth study of religious philosophy and spiritual practices, or she may lose heart and become cynical about religious ideals; however, she can never quite divorce herself from her idealistic concerns.
Sometimes circumstances appear to be working against Shiri, and she may have to confront major challenges. Shiri Appleby will probably have to work harder than others in order to succeed, thereby rendering her hard and cold hearted in her decision-making.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Shiri Appleby instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Shiri Appleby needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Her natural instinct, especially when under stress, is to passively go along with whatever is easiest, refrain from clearly analyzing or assessing her situation and perhaps even try to escape from seeing her situation clearly by indulging in fantasies, intoxicants, and the like. Dreaminess and impracticality, being unfocused and undefined (at least in certain areas) are ways Shiri Appleby copes with stress. Shiri Appleby also has trouble setting limits and saying no.
Her development path lies in cultivating discrimination and clarity, becoming more precise, and developing technical and practical skills that will enable Shiri Appleby to function more efficiently in the world. Finding a way to be of practical service is also important.
It is in her marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that she is most likely to wrestle with these issues. She may see the qualities that she needs to develop more fully (described above) in her partner. It is important for Shiri Appleby to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in her life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them herself. Shiri Appleby has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about herself through others.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Shiri Appleby back, or which she is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Being bound to past events and experiences because of her desire to belong, deep attachments to family and the familiar (even if they are neither nourishing nor helpful), the desire to nurture or be nurtured by others, and a strong resistance to cutting the umbilical cord.
Shiri Appleby is not in the least bit selfish and she has the ability to share the joy she feels with other people. Shiri seems to have a gift for getting more reserved people to open up, teaching them how to give and receive love and affection.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Virgo
Saturn in 7th house
Saturn Square Neptune
Saturn Conjunct Jupiter/Pluto
N. Node in Virgo
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Opposition Moon
N. Node Conjunct Venus/Jupiter