approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Selena's basic stance toward life, the way others see her, the way Selena Gomez comes across, the face she shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Selena Gomez - her real motivation, which describes the kind of person she is at heart and where her true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Selena Gomez" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Selena a little better. This page describes the disguise Gomez wears, her role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
She is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if she strongly disagrees with someone, Selena Gomez will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. She often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Selena has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Selena Gomez very much wants to be liked and because of her need for approval and acceptance, Gomez is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. She so much wants to please that often Selena Gomez will suppress her own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Gomez's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
Her need to create harmony extends to her physical environment and personal appearance as well. Selena Gomez appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. She does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From her home furnishings to her choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
She also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Gomez is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Selena possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to her and finding the right person to share her life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Selena Gomez - she is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases her self-confidence. Selena Gomez does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on her partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being herself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Selena.
Others see Selena Gomez as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to her, this is the sort of face Gomez shows to the world. She possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. Her motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Selena Gomez usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
Selena Gomez comes across as quirky, unusual, offbeat and "different". Sometimes she appears to provoke people and upset the status quo just by being herself. Gomez tends to be restless, excitable and somewhat ungrounded or nervous as well.
Selena Gomez is extremely sensitive to all the impressions and energies around her and at times can be overcome or dominated by more forceful personalities. Learning to establish clear boundaries is important for her, as Selena Gomez tends to become enmeshed emotionally and/or psychically with whomever she is with. She may have the chameleon's trait of appearing to become the people or person she is with the most.
To others, Selena Gomez appears capable, mature and down to earth. Even when she was young, there was a certain practicality and responsible air about Selena that inspired people to rely on her. Gomez keeps her cool in most situations.
Selena Gomez comes across to others as intelligent, alert, articulate, knowledgeable and communicative. She is quite curious and interested in the people and events around her and cannot resist commenting about them.
Gomez also needs to be busy and active and she moves quickly. Selena Gomez also appears to be restless. Keeping her mind or hands occupied helps with that.
Selena Gomez has a sweet, appealing demeanor and seems instinctively to grasp the concept that "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar". Her personal brand of charm is usually quite winning. Selena coaxes rather than coerces. However, if she does not get what she wants, Selena Gomez is likely to resort to insincere flattery, wheedling, whining or pouting rather than stating directly what she needs, or doing it for herself. Gomez seems to need others' approval first.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Uranus Square Asc.
Neptune Square Asc.
Saturn Trine Asc.
Mercury Sextile Asc.
Venus Sextile Asc.