approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Sam's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Sam Mendes comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Sam Mendes - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Sam Mendes" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Sam a little better. This page describes the disguise Mendes wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if he strongly disagrees with someone, Sam Mendes will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. He often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Sam has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Sam Mendes very much wants to be liked and because of his need for approval and acceptance, Mendes is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. He so much wants to please that often Sam Mendes will suppress his own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Mendes' politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
His need to create harmony extends to his physical environment and personal appearance as well. Sam Mendes appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. He does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From his home furnishings to his choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
He also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Mendes is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Sam possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to him and finding the right person to share his life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Sam Mendes - he is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases his self-confidence. Sam Mendes does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on his partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being himself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Sam.
Others see Sam Mendes as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to him, this is the sort of face Mendes shows to the world. He possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. His motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Sam Mendes usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
Assertiveness and confrontation is very much part of Mendes' way of approaching life. Waiting for someone else to make the first move is not Mendes' style. Though Sam Mendes values harmony and pleasantness, he often feels that others are trying to control him or are not trying to cooperate with him. Others feel that Sam demands too much of them. Surprisingly, Sam Mendes is often perceived by others as a trouble maker or instigator, even when Mendes' intention is to help and assist them.
Mendes may well have been discouraged from freely expressing himself. Moreover, he may be seriously inhibited by an overemphasis on being acceptable, conforming to certain standards and expectations, and generally not getting out of line.
Other people may consider his environment a bit strange and Mendes likes to surround himself with a certain air of mystery. Sam Mendes tends to be very secretive and is likely to exert his power from behind the scenes.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Mars Conjunct Ascendant in Libra
Saturn Quincunx Asc.
Asc. Conjunct Neptune/Pluto