Rutger Hauer
in Relationships

Serious and responsible, he tries to carry the world on his shoulders and rarely lets others know that he needs help and support. Rutger Hauer denies or ignores his own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept him if he appears "weak". He is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells himself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". Rutger Hauer needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with his "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, he may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. His feelings and loyalties run deep, but he often does not let people know how much he cares. Rutger Hauer also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy himself, and play.

He is emotionally expressive and often dramatizes his feelings by acting them out or blowing them out of proportion. Rutger Hauer cannot hide his instinctive emotional reactions to people or situations, and he does not make any pretenses about his personal sympathies or antipathies.

Rutger Hauer has a childlike openness and playfulness that is very appealing to others but sometimes gets him into trouble, as Rutger takes risks on an impulse or a whim.

Rutger Hauer tends to be touchy, defensive and rather territorial, and if he perceives a threat to his family or home or personal safety, he can be quite aggressive. Sometimes Rutger feels out of sorts and hostile for no apparent reason, and this is usually due to unexpressed, unresolved anger from the past. Rutger Hauer also has a desire to lead, to compete, or to be a free agent - and he is not entirely conscious of this desire. It is good for Hauer to have benign outlets and ways to let off steam on a regular basis, such as demanding physical work or athletics. Otherwise Rutger Hauer may be rather hard to live with, even abusive in his relationships.

Rutger Hauer tends to have strange quirks, idiosyncrasies or domestic habits, and he may feel that he does not fit in with "normal" people. These could be endearing eccentricities, or truly outlandish tastes and behavior. Establishing a steady routine and rhythm in his life and relationships would be very beneficial but may not be easily achieved. Ideally Rutger Hauer could create a unique lifestyle that affords him a lot of personal space, freedom and flexibility to follow his own somewhat erratic rhythms - yet at the same time provides him with a modicum of order and consistency. There is also a current of emotional discontent or restlessness within Rutger that may be reflected in unstable personal relationships of the on again/off again variety. Rutger Hauer craves change and excitement whether he realizes it consciously or not.

Although Rutger Hauer was portrayed above as being assertive and combative, he also has a diametrically opposed tendency - namely the urge to escape all contention and ugliness. This may mellow Rutger's fiery reactions somewhat, or he may seesaw between the two. His softer side is described in the following paragraphs.

He is a dreamer who is attracted to the inner, mystical side of life, and may have trouble distinguishing the real from the imagined or illusory. Rutger does not enjoy confrontation and becomes very evasive when problems in his personal life or relationships arise, and escapes into his imagination in order to avoid dealing with them directly. He is also rather gullible and naive about people, especially if his sympathy has been aroused. Rutger Hauer is very sensitive to music and can use it to achieve emotional balance and harmony.

Powerful and complex emotions stir Rutger Hauer, and his emotional life and closest personal relationships are liable to be tumultuous until Rutger does some deep soul searching. Buried feelings and memories that he does not want to deal with may surface at unexpected times. Holding in fears, secrets or "taboo" thoughts and feelings can only intensify them, and Rutger Hauer needs to share them with someone who is sympathetic, trustworthy and fairly objective. Ridding himself of emotional compulsions and deeply embedded patterns that do not serve him can be tremendously liberating if Rutger Hauer is willing to do the necessary inner house cleaning.

He is hard-working and tends to work till he collapses. Forceful and aggressive, Rutger Hauer comes on strong and has a tendency to be abusive when frustrated. Hauer must learn to relax in order to avoid suffering total emotional or physical exhaustion.

His attitude toward other people is very emotional and Rutger Hauer feels a certain soul affinity with them. Rutger has an inner need to express his feelings to others and is especially partial to groups where he can help to further their accomplishments.

Rutger Hauer tends to go to extremes to be different or to preserve his freedom, and his nature is rather thoughtless, impatient and restless. He is daring and audacious, ambitious and determined, but feels that things can only be accomplished by using force.

He is getting quickly excited by other people and will probably have many relationships that are terminated just as quickly as they are made. Rutger Hauer does not like to be alone and he always keeps his house open for his friends and acquaintances.

In love relationships, Rutger Hauer seeks companionship and friendship with someone who is fun loving, playful and open to adventure and new experiences. He enjoys traveling together, meeting new people and making new friends. Honeymooning in a distant location appeals to Rutger, and he is also attracted to foreigners or people with diametrically different backgrounds than his own. Rutger Hauer supports his partner in taking risks and making positive changes, rather than preserving the status quo. He also very much wants a partner who will encourage his own aspirations and dreams. It is very important to Rutger that he have a spiritual or intellectual rapport with his love partner, perhaps more important than the emotional/physical aspect. Rutger Hauer is not especially sentimental and his love partner may feel that he is too casual and not serious or romantic enough.

Rutger Hauer loves romance and wishes that the honeymoon phase of his love relationships would last forever! Hauer needs dramatic romantic gestures and displays of affection from his partner and he wants to feel very, very special - like royalty - to his beloved. Rutger Hauer also has an artistic flair and he enjoys creating art or some form of beauty.

Rutger Hauer appreciates beautiful surroundings and congenial company, and though he enjoys helping people, Rutger Hauer will rarely put himself out too much in the process. He is good-humored and generous at heart but inclined to be lazy.

Rutger's pleasure-loving nature and his emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing his affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Rutger Hauer is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times he is far more contained as described here. Because he is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Hauer is to being left out or unappreciated.

Feelings of loneliness, extreme shyness and/or the fear of rejection plague Rutger Hauer and may well inhibit him from expressing warmth and affection in an open way. Denying himself pleasure, comfort, and "nice things" due to feelings of unworthiness can also limit the joy Rutger allows himself. Heartache and a loss of love in his life - perhaps while quite young - will serve to either close his heart to love or cause him to deeply cherish the friends and love he receives from others. The saying that "true love is hard to find" is certainly true for Rutger Hauer, but he will value it tremendously when it does come into his life.

The feeling that "there is not enough for me" may cause him to be very frugal and stingy with money as well.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in 5th house

Moon Quincunx Mars

Moon Quincunx Uranus

Moon aspects Mars and Neptune

Moon Square Neptune

Moon Quincunx Pluto

Moon Opposition Mars/Pluto

Moon Opposition Mars/N. Node

Moon Opposition Uranus/Pluto

Moon Opposition Uranus/N. Node

Venus in Sagittarius

Venus in 5th house

Venus Trine Jupiter

Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Venus Opposition Saturn