challenges and difficulties
Abernathy both yearns for, and fears, being emotionally vulnerable to others and experiencing deep emotional intimacy. Trusting others and letting them get to know him intimately does not come easily to Ralph, and sexual inhibitions may result from this. Ralph Abernathy is very self-protective and may be compulsively secretive. Learning to relinquish control in personal relationships, and to be completely open, is an important task for Abernathy.
Abernathy is generally not a "joiner" and he does not feel comfortable in clubs, organizations or other groups of people that are centered on some common ideal or interest. If Ralph Abernathy does participate in a group, he may find the rules and procedures restrictive - or he may simply feel that he does not fit in with the others.
Being alone or with older, more experienced people suits Ralph Abernathy better than being with groups of his own peers.
Ralph Abernathy strives and struggles a great deal with his ideals or spiritual aspirations. He may go through periods of self-denial, asceticism, and in-depth study of religious philosophy and spiritual practices, or he may lose heart and become cynical about religious ideals; however, he can never quite divorce himself from his idealistic concerns.
He is a bit skeptical, somewhat irritable, and others may find Ralph Abernathy quarrelsome or nagging. His nervousness seems to stem from his tendency to over-work himself, and Abernathy should try not to make more demands on others than they are able to handle.
When he is with others, Ralph Abernathy may often suddenly become inhibited. He is inclined to be afraid of confrontations and probably will avoid group activities as much as possible.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Ralph Abernathy instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Ralph Abernathy needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
When under stress, Ralph Abernathy is apt to shut off the flow of his emotions and ignore his needs and feelings in order to do what he perceives as his duty or simply what the practical realities of the situation dictate. This can lead to a certain rigidity and inflexibility. If overdone, self-control, self-discipline, or an exaggerated concern over what society, family or others expect of him, makes life more of a burden than an adventure.
Fostering his tender, caring, feminine, and nurturing aspects is an important step in Ralph Abernathy's growth. Ralph Abernathy needs to learn how to nourish and lovingly tend to both himself and others. Letting himself be taken care of sometimes is okay!
It is in his marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. He may see the qualities that he needs to develop more fully (described above) in his partner. It is important for Ralph Abernathy to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in his life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them himself. Ralph Abernathy has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about himself through others.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Ralph Abernathy back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
The need to be first all of the time and demonstrate an aggressive or bossy attitude, impatience or irritability; an over-eagerness to use force or violence to gain advantage and the tendency to resort to fighting or using confrontation too quickly.
Ralph Abernathy seems to be a loner, rather serious and quiet. Perhaps he is burdened by family conditions that weigh him down. Ralph prefers to associate with older or more authoritative people and is happier in a subordinate position.
Ralph has an inner need to share his experiences with others and he talks to his friends and acquaintances in a very open manner. Socially minded, Ralph Abernathy likes to cultivate close relationships, especially with women.
Ralph Abernathy has a very sympathetic and compassionate attitude toward others and shows an interest in their well-being. His relationships are more on a personal basis and people are drawn to Abernathy because of his sincerity and kindness.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Scorpio
Saturn in 11th house
Saturn Square Neptune
Saturn Opposition Mercury/Pluto
Saturn Opposition Uranus/N. Node
N. Node in Cancer
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Opposition Mars
N. Node Opposition Sun/Saturn
N. Node Opposition Moon/Asc.
N. Node Opposition Venus/Asc.