challenges and difficulties
Phyllis Hudson both yearns for, and fears, being emotionally vulnerable to others and experiencing deep emotional intimacy. Trusting others and letting them get to know her intimately does not come easily to Phyllis Gates, and sexual inhibitions may result from this. Phyllis Gates-Hudson is very self-protective and may be compulsively secretive. Learning to relinquish control in personal relationships, and to be completely open, is an important task for Phyllis Hudson.
Phyllis Hudson is generally not a "joiner" and she does not feel comfortable in clubs, organizations or other groups of people that are centered on some common ideal or interest. If Phyllis Gates-Hudson does participate in a group, she may find the rules and procedures restrictive - or she may simply feel that she does not fit in with the others.
Being alone or with older, more experienced people suits Phyllis Gates-Hudson better than being with groups of her own peers.
Phyllis Gates-Hudson strives and struggles a great deal with her ideals or spiritual aspirations. She may go through periods of self-denial, asceticism, and in-depth study of religious philosophy and spiritual practices, or she may lose heart and become cynical about religious ideals; however, she can never quite divorce herself from her idealistic concerns.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Phyllis Gates-Hudson instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Phyllis Gates-Hudson needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
When under stress, Phyllis Gates-Hudson is apt to shut off the flow of her emotions and ignore her needs and feelings in order to do what she perceives as her duty or simply what the practical realities of the situation dictate. This can lead to a certain rigidity and inflexibility. If overdone, self-control, self-discipline, or an exaggerated concern over what society, family or others expect of her, makes life more of a burden than an adventure.
Fostering her tender, caring, feminine, and nurturing aspects is an important step in Phyllis Gates-Hudson's growth. Phyllis Gates-Hudson needs to learn how to nourish and lovingly tend to both herself and others. Letting herself be taken care of sometimes is okay!
It is in her marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that she is most likely to wrestle with these issues. She may see the qualities that she needs to develop more fully (described above) in her partner. It is important for Phyllis Gates-Hudson to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in her life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them herself. Phyllis Gates-Hudson has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about herself through others.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Phyllis Gates-Hudson back, or which she is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Phyllis Gates-Hudson tends to over-rely on luck or grace, living for tomorrow and gambling. Phyllis Gates is overconfident and tends to overextend herself and take on more than is humanly possible. Phyllis Gates is often dogmatic about her philosophy of life or religious beliefs.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Scorpio
Saturn in 11th house
Saturn Square Neptune
N. Node in Cancer
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Opposition Jupiter