approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Phoebe's basic stance toward life, the way others see her, the way Phoebe Cates comes across, the face she shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Phoebe Cates - her real motivation, which describes the kind of person she is at heart and where her true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Phoebe Cates" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Phoebe a little better. This page describes the disguise Cates wears, her role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
She is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if she strongly disagrees with someone, Phoebe Cates will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. She often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Phoebe has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Phoebe Cates very much wants to be liked and because of her need for approval and acceptance, Cates is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. She so much wants to please that often Phoebe Cates will suppress her own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Cates' politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
Her need to create harmony extends to her physical environment and personal appearance as well. Phoebe Cates appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. She does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From her home furnishings to her choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
She also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Cates is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Phoebe possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to her and finding the right person to share her life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Phoebe Cates - she is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases her self-confidence. Phoebe Cates does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on her partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being herself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Phoebe.
Others see Phoebe Cates as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to her, this is the sort of face Cates shows to the world. She possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. Her motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Phoebe Cates usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
Phoebe Cates appears to be sweet to other people, and she knows how to use charm, persuasion and affection rather than more direct (but possibly disagreeable) methods to get her point across. She may be overly concerned with appearances and superficial beauty, in which case Phoebe Cates may also seem vain and narcissistic to others.
She is very sensitive to her surroundings and inclined to be easily influenced by others. Phoebe Cates tends to avoid confrontations, discussions or arguments for fear that she cannot stand up to them.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Venus Square Asc.
Asc. Conjunct Uranus/Neptune