approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Oscar's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Oscar Wilde comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Oscar Wilde - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Oscar Wilde" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Oscar a little better. This page describes the disguise Wilde wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
Modest, unobtrusive, and often rather quiet or shy, he is a person who is content to stay in the background or to serve as an assistant, in the supporting role rather than in the lead. He is quite humble in his own assessment of himself; he seeks perfection, with a tendency to be overly self-critical. No matter how well he does something, Oscar Wilde always sees the flaws in it and how it could be improved. Often Wilde will simply refuse to attempt something because he feels he cannot meet his own high standards.
Oscar Wilde has an eye for detail and he gets upset when something is not done just so, usually something others consider rather inconsequential or trivial. He is hard to please and his relationships with others may suffer because of this. Oscar Wilde also has refined sensitivities and is very discriminating and particular in his choice of foods, clothes, friends, artwork, etc. Order in Wilde's environment is very important to Wilde.
Wilde steps into situations rather cautiously, and not without realistically assessing all of the risks and potential advantages involved. Unless something is a safe bet, he is unlikely to dive into it. Oscar Wilde tends to underestimate his own capacities and to lack confidence and trust in life, which inhibits his spontaneity. Worrying is a bad habit of his. On the other hand, Oscar rarely falls flat on his face and what he does, he does very well.
Others see Oscar Wilde as a self-sufficient and rather self-contained person. Wilde has a strong sense of propriety. Politeness, good manners, and correct behavior are important to him. His clear, cool, objective and non-emotional attitude is apparent to others first, and though he is really quite helpful and caring, he does not radiate much sympathy and as a result, others may not see the helpful side as readily. Oscar may seem more businesslike and factual as well as more conservative than he really is at heart. He is the person others might go to for technical advice or an unbiased opinion, but not for emotional support.
He is keenly observant, intelligent, and has a great desire for learning and for self-improvement, but he is not especially ambitious and is often satisfied with a rather simple, unglamourous position in life.
To others, he may come across as very gentle, malleable and easily taken in. As a result, people may take advantage of Oscar Wilde, especially through his pity or sympathy. If Oscar seems to be continually disappointed in or deceived by others, he should try to see how his own naiveté may be a contributing factor.
Oscar Wilde comes across as contained, and perhaps wary or mistrustful as well. He watches his step, and frequently withdraws if his environment does not feel welcoming and safe. As a result, Wilde may seem much more conservative than he actually is. Oscar is wary of committing social blunders and is extremely sensitive to criticism or rejection. As he matures, Oscar Wilde's confidence is likely to grow because he will learn to depend more on his own self-assessment..
Oscar Wilde comes across as tolerant, broad-minded, and well educated or as a seasoned traveler. He radiates a certain distinction, even nobility. Wilde is apt to have a significant, beneficial impact on the people he encounters, without even realizing it.
Oscar Wilde comes across as liberal and open-minded. Anything new, innovative, unusual or off the beaten track arouses his interest. Wilde infuses his environment with enthusiasm, new life and excitement. Though not intentionally disruptive, Oscar Wilde does enjoy startling or waking people up a bit.
Oscar Wilde comes across to others as intelligent, alert, articulate, knowledgeable and communicative. He is quite curious and interested in the people and events around him and cannot resist commenting about them.
Wilde also needs to be busy and active and he moves quickly. Oscar Wilde also appears to be restless. Keeping his mind or hands occupied helps with that.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Neptune Opposition Asc.
Saturn Square Asc.
Jupiter Trine Asc.
Uranus Trine Asc.
Mercury Sextile Asc.