challenges and difficulties
Natalie Cole has a penchant for order and precision, and an almost compulsive attention to detail. She is often hypercritical and can be such a demanding perfectionist that she discourages herself or others from even attempting something that will not be done exactly the way Cole knows it should be done.
She frequently over analyzes or picks things apart mentally. Natalie Cole may also be somewhat of a hypochondriac. Natalie must learn that she does not have to rationally understand everything in order for it to be valid, and also to relax her unnecessarily high or strict standards.
Natalie Cole has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life that colors everything she does. Caution and realism are her virtues though Natalie limits herself at times by being too careful, shy or fearful, not believing in herself enough, or lacking the required assertiveness. Others find Natalie Cole difficult to get to know intimately, as Cole tends to distance herself from them or to outwardly adopt a rather stern, "adult" demeanor.
Her faith, optimism, and sense of possibilities are tempered by a great deal of caution, and often doubt or skepticism as well. Whatever hopes or visions Natalie Cole has for her life are firmly held in check by her sense of reality. At times she may wish for more freedom, but Natalie also fears it and holds back. Natalie Cole may blame practical limitations, some external condition or the prevailing Authority for her own inhibitions.
Natalie Cole has a tendency to feel inadequate, perhaps even unlovable, and she tends to withdraw from others. Consequently, Cole may feel lonely and out of touch with everyone, and that she has no support from anyone.
Very cautious and reserved, Natalie Cole may find it difficult to express herself. She is a bit inhibited around others and does not seem to derive much cooperation from them, which causes Natalie to be disappointed.
Natalie Cole tends to have a pessimistic outlook and she seems to be plagued by deep inner conflicts, which could severely undermine her strength. Self-critical and uncertain about her goals, Natalie feels that she cannot live up to her ideals and ends up disappointed.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Natalie Cole instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Natalie Cole needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Seeking harmonious interpersonal relationships, cooperation, and togetherness, as well as the desire to please or appease other people, are drives that come very naturally to Natalie Cole - so much so that she seeks them out at her own expense. When she is under stress, Cole tends to look outside herself for approval or answers, and she leans on others too much. Therefore, developing self-reliance, and the courage to look inwardly for answers and forge her own path through life is a key factor in her self-development.
Natalie Cole is often tempted to be less than completely straightforward about her intentions or desires, and she can become enmeshed in a quagmire of "little white lies". Stark honesty - both inward and toward others - is the only way out! This, however, leads to the need to confront some of Cole's most deeply ingrained fears, such as "what if they do not like me?" and "what if I have to go through this alone?".
Natalie Cole needs to cultivate her ability to be assertive, take initiative and act on her own behalf. Directness and self-reliance are imperative.
It is in relationships that are more than superficial or casual - in particular in cases where Natalie Cole has merged emotionally, legally, or financially with another person - that she is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Cole will see these issues arise in close partnerships of any kind, especially when there is a mutual dependency involved. Dealing with in-laws, inheritances, and legal matters involving joint custody, shared assets, and resources is also a part of this.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Natalie Cole back, or which she is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Being bound to past events and experiences because of her desire to belong, deep attachments to family and the familiar (even if they are neither nourishing nor helpful), the desire to nurture or be nurtured by others, and a strong resistance to cutting the umbilical cord.
The need to be first all of the time and demonstrate an aggressive or bossy attitude, impatience or irritability; an over-eagerness to use force or violence to gain advantage and the tendency to resort to fighting or using confrontation too quickly.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Virgo
Saturn in 1st house
Jupiter Quincunx Saturn
Saturn Conjunct Moon/Asc.
Saturn Conjunct Mars/Asc.
Saturn Conjunct Neptune/Pluto
N. Node in Aries
N. Node in 8th house
N. Node Opposition Moon
N. Node Opposition Mars