Mary Maxwell Gates
in Relationships

Mary does not appear to be an intensely emotional or sentimental person, and she is often unaware of her own or other people's deeper feelings and emotional needs. Tears and tantrums bewilder her and make her very uncomfortable. Mary Maxwell Gates would rather settle differences by talking things out reasonably and rationally, but she tends to ignore or poke fun at any attempt to probe her own or others' inner depths.

Mary Maxwell Gates avoids heavy, demanding emotional relationships and is wary of making personal commitments.

She needs ample mental stimulation and feels close to people with whom she can share thoughts and intellectual interests. Conversation is very important to Maxwell. The strong, silent partner is not for her.

Mary Maxwell Gates may have done extensive traveling in her early years, or in some way had a background which enables her to understand and identify with many different types of people or cultures.

Maxwell has a craving for things which are far away and foreign or for things she has never experienced before. Mary Maxwell Gates wants to completely immerse herself in the feelings and tastes of a new place, rather than simply have facts or an intellectual appreciation. Emotionally, too, Mary is restless and something of a wanderer.

Maxwell is rambunctious and a little rowdy at times, and she enjoys sharing this kind of energy with her friends. Making noise, cheering at a football game, or even getting into a friendly fight all seem like a good time to her. In fact, Mary Maxwell Gates needs to do these things or otherwise she gets crabby.

Although Maxwell gets hot under the collar rather easily (as mentioned above), she also has a certain degree of emotional self-control and composure, which enable Mary Maxwell Gates to rein in some of her more aggressive tendencies. This side of her is described below.

Some rather acute fears of being excluded, rejected, left out in the cold or separated from loved ones can make Mary Maxwell Gates either extremely cautious about getting close to people or clingy toward whoever gives her any warmth or security. Mary Maxwell Gates tends to withhold and clamp down on many of her feelings and craves nurturing and security, perhaps feeling that they are unacceptable or will never be satisfied. Learning to be open and trust others to nurture her is important to her. Her earliest years, especially Maxwell's relationships with her mother, will determine whether Mary Maxwell Gates will overcome her fears or retreat behind a mask of self-sufficiency and indifference.

Although Mary Maxwell Gates was portrayed above as being assertive and combative, she also has a diametrically opposed tendency - namely the urge to escape all contention and ugliness. This may mellow Mary's fiery reactions somewhat, or she may seesaw between the two. Her softer side is described in the following paragraphs.

Mary Maxwell Gates tends to surround herself with people who are gentle, sensitive, peace-loving, and artistically or spiritually inclined, and there is a strong element of mutual compassion and sympathy in her personal relationships. It is easy for Mary to tune in psychically to other people's feelings and emotional worlds. Mary Maxwell Gates may share this type of telepathic link with her mother, sisters, or female friends in particular.

In love relationships, Mary Maxwell Gates is steadfast and loyal, especially if she has a warm, demonstrative partner. She is very sensual in nature and craves plenty of touching and physical affection. Mary enjoys being pampered with a good meal, a loving massage or other sensual delights. She is a wonderful lover who is very attentive to the comfort and enjoyment of her loved one. Mary Maxwell Gates responds intensely to beauty and physical appearance, and the physical attractiveness of her partner is very important to her.

Mary Maxwell Gates craves very intense, deep, emotional relationships, and would even prefer stormy, tumultuous relationships to ones that are smooth but lacking vitality and passion. Mary loves wholeheartedly and expects all-consuming, total devotion and attention from her partner. Casual, light relationships hold no appeal for Maxwell.

She is intensely amorous and attractive to the opposite sex, and is not inclined to friendly platonic relationships. There is a great deal of tension in her love relationships - often because Mary Maxwell Gates puts her desires ahead of her partner's, and is impatient to have her love needs satisfied. The whole arena of love relationships, romance and sex is endlessly fascinating to Mary Maxwell Gates and she is not happy without a love partner. Maxwell can "burn herself out" by pouring so much of her energy into romance.

Mary Maxwell Gates tends to deprive herself of pleasure, friendship, and love, either because she feels she does not deserve it or she thinks it is wrong to enjoy life too much. Maxwell may have been indoctrinated with a duty-and-work-before-all-else orientation early on. She may also think of herself as unattractive or unlovable, and thus close her heart to opportunities to share love and companionship, never quite believing that others actually like her. Mary Maxwell Gates is apt to prefer solitude to being in uncomfortable relationships or social situations, and her shyness may be intense - especially when young. Learning to truly love and accept herself - including whatever flaws or imperfections Mary believes she has - is so important for her. This process of self-appreciation and self-love will reap rewards, especially in later life.

Mary Maxwell Gates has a very romantic, idealistic vision of love relationships and may be disillusioned to discover that no real, flesh-and-blood human being ever quite lives up to her dream image of the "perfect love". Though Mary frequently fantasizes about love and romance - she may avoid becoming intimately involved with anyone or making definite commitments. When it comes to love, Maxwell can be evasive and dishonest with herself and others. Some of Maxwell's love yearnings may be expressed through art, music or an involvement with mysticism.

She is likely to have many romantic relationships or unusual love experiences. Mary Maxwell Gates tends to fall in love quickly and enjoy a conquest, but then tire of what has been conquered. If she does not keep this in control, she could end up in a hasty marriage and a quick divorce.

Her attitude is positive and harmonious and Mary Maxwell Gates impresses others as a very caring individual. She is very friendly and pleasant when she is with other people and knows how to make herself popular. She is likely to have a very happy family life.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Gemini

Moon in 9th house

Moon Sextile Mars

Moon aspects Mars and Saturn

Moon Opposition Saturn

Moon aspects Mars and Neptune

Moon Sextile Neptune

Venus in Taurus

Venus in 8th house

Venus Square Mars

Venus Quincunx Saturn

Venus Square Neptune

Venus Conjunct Sun/Uranus

Venus Conjunct Jupiter/N. Node