Lou Adler
in Relationships

Secretive and inclined to brooding silences, it is difficult for others to really know his inner core, for Lou Adler only trusts and opens himself to a select few. Allowing himself to be vulnerable and to relinquish control in relationships is not easy for Adler.

Lou has intense, passionate loves and hates and is a jealously loyal and protective friend - or a fearsome foe. Lou Adler has a nasty habit of holding onto past hurts, resentments and guilt - and to keep such feelings to himself. It is important for Lou Adler to learn to forgive and let go, as well as to express his feelings openly and directly, rather than hiding or repressing them.

He is not content with superficial appearances and is always probing beneath the surface of things for hidden motives. Lou Adler has a great deal of emotional depth.

Adler depends a great deal upon other people for emotional support and he has a large "family" of friends that care about him and treat him as kin. The women in Lou's life are particularly important to him, and his relationships with them powerfully influence his sense of security and happiness. Lou Adler may be overly dependent and unsure of himself without a close partner.

Lou has conflicting emotional desires and needs which complicate his personal life and relationships. He may feel that he cannot depend on his love partner to take care of him or perhaps Adler cannot decide what he really wants in love relationships: a parent or a lover. If his needs for emotional sustenance and love are not satisfied, overeating (especially sweets) can become a problem.

He is inclined to be somewhat gloomy, is easily offended, and he tries to suppress the jealousy he may feel. Lou Adler may have been brought up to sacrifice and forego a lot of things, making him a bit hard and unyielding in later life.

Lou Adler seems to float above reality and has a very intense imagination. Lou likes to daydream and is apt to have many wishes and illusions that rarely have a chance to materialize. He is guided by his feelings and seems to live in a world of his own.

He is open and unconventional in his attitude towards love relationships, romance and sex. He enjoys socializing, bringing people together and having many friends of both sexes. Lou Adler values friendship very highly and in fact, he is more comfortable being a friend than a lover. Lou desires an intellectual rapport or spiritual bond with his love partner, but deep intimacy and emotional bonding do not come easily to him. The traditional "husband" and "wife" roles do not appeal to Adler, and he abhors jealousy and possessiveness since he feels that no person truly "belongs" to another. Lou Adler appreciates relationships in which his love partner allows him plenty of freedom and is not very emotionally demanding.

Adler is a very sociable, congenial person and he wilts very quickly without relationships with good friends and people to share good times with. Lou Adler thoroughly enjoys working with others on group projects or community activities. He is quite happy when he is a part of a club, support group, or team of some sort.

Intimacy does not come easily to Lou Adler and he may appear cold or unfeeling to others due to his emotional reserve and caution. Perhaps due to painful relationships and separations in his early life, Adler does not trust others very easily and it takes a long time to break down all of his barriers and defenses. He may feel that he has few friends or people that really care about him. Lou Adler needs to learn to value and love himself more and to express his appreciation for others more openly.

Lou Adler has a strong desire for harmony and beauty in his surroundings. Very interested in art, he is likely to devote his life to beauty and art. He may pursue a career in cultivating and embellishing the environment.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Scorpio

Moon in 7th house

Moon Square Venus

Moon Opposition Saturn/Pluto

Moon Conjunct Neptune/MC

Venus in Aquarius

Venus in 11th house

Venus Conjunct Saturn

Venus Conjunct Asc./MC