challenges and difficulties
He is very self-conscious and has a great need for ego-affirmation and praise. Expressing himself freely and openly is not easy for Mayer. John Mayer tends to work hard at playing and "having fun", rather than being light-hearted and spontaneous. Developing self-love and self-acceptance regardless of his "performance" is an important task for John.
Fear of the unknown, of change, and/or of death may plague John. He strongly resists changes and transitions rather than greeting them with curiosity or a spirit of adventure, which makes them much harder for him.
On another level entirely, John Mayer is very careful about joining forces, and especially his material resources, with others. Mayer wants to keep his own and other people's property and assets very distinct.
He is likely to find it hard to make decisions, looking forward to the future with great enthusiasm on one hand, but afraid of misjudgments on the other. Never quite sure about anything, John Mayer may withdraw from situations and people periodically.
Mayer may find it difficult to relate to people and express his feelings, especially in love relationships. On one hand, John Mayer wants relationships and on the other he would rather be by himself. A sense of personal inadequacy makes John withdraw from others and feeling lonely as a result.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which John Mayer instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction John Mayer needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Instinctively he is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, John stands alone when he does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. John Mayer has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that he must be self-reliant and that only he can come up with the answers he needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate him from others, or make John Mayer feel that "it is me against the world".
Social skills and graces and what John Mayer calls social "games" do not come naturally to him. John Mayer needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.
It is in his public life and career that John Mayer is most likely to wrestle with these issues. The latter will impact Mayer's reputation and standing in his community or professional circle, as well as how John Mayer achieves his important life goals and aspirations.
The following are specific activities that will support John Mayer in his growth. These may or may not feel natural to Mayer, and he may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to his path to wholeness.
John Mayer has to learn to communicate and express himself through the written or spoken word. It is best for John to study, learn skills and develop his intellectual interests and capacities. Mayer needs to become involved in sharing and exchanging information with others and in developing his intellectual reasoning ability. John Mayer should practice using his mind, his thinking skills and his ability to be objective. "Work smarter, not harder" might be a motto for him.
Writing, teaching, recording, transcribing, dialoguing, negotiating, mediating, communicating, or facilitating clear communication are significant activities for John Mayer to pursue.
John Mayer's path to wholeness involves confronting his dark and hidden recesses, bringing them out into the open, and transforming himself in the process. Healing abilities develop as a result of Mayer's willingness to experience and transform deep emotions such as grief, anger, and pain. Furthermore, bringing light to the darkness and pain in the world without becoming overwhelmed by it is a significant challenge for John.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Leo
Saturn in 8th house
Saturn Conjunct Mercury/Jupiter
Saturn Conjunct Venus/Mars
N. Node in Libra
N. Node in 10th house
N. Node Conjunct Mercury
N. Node Conjunct Pluto