Although he is quite tolerant, giving and forgiving (as mentioned in the previous chapter), John Coltrane has a definite sense of fairness, balance and correct proportions, which prevent John from being completely happy in an exclusively benevolent role. John Coltrane really wants equal and reciprocal relationships - not ones that involve being someone else's servant or caregiver. However, John Coltrane needs to learn how to assert what he wants and needs, for he tends to "go with the flow" or simply wait for his needs to be met. Consequently, he may feel that he is never able to achieve equality in relationships and ends up being taken advantage of. Moreover, John should avoid the tendency to be evasive, indirect, and afraid to confront unpleasant issues. The honest and open relationships Coltrane seeks cannot be achieved if he is hiding something!
Harmony and balance are his keynotes. John Coltrane instinctively understands the need to accommodate other people's interests and desires, and he is always fair and willing to meet others half way. Tactful, diplomatic, and quite socially aware, John does all he can to avoid conflict and discord. His spirit is one of cooperation and compromise, and he often achieves through charm and discretion what would have been impossible to achieve with a direct, forceful approach.
Getting along with and pleasing others may be too important to Coltrane since he can be too dependent on the approval and opinions of other to make his own decisions. Coltrane will rarely act without seeking the counsel and feedback of other people. He prefers sharing and doing things with others rather than on his own. Being alone feels very unnatural to John Coltrane, and he has a strong need for a partner and intimate one-on-one relationships.
John Coltrane invests a great deal of his energy in personal love relationships and he is very idealistic and romantic about marriage. John Coltrane seeks a partner who is his equal intellectually, and who is capable of a mental relationship as well as a physical and emotional one. He makes a thoughtful, considerate friend or lover, and he enjoys the traditional symbols of love - courtship, flowers, etc. Coltrane perceives relationships like an art that requires time, attention and creative effort. John Coltrane appreciates a partner who is subtle and polished, never coarse or blunt.
Fairness and equality, both in his personal relationships and in the world, are extremely important to him. If John Coltrane fights about anything, it is often about something he feels is unfair and unbalanced. Balance is very important to John. He believes in moderation in all things and avoids fanaticism and extremism at all costs.
John Coltrane also has a strong need for beautiful, harmonious surroundings and a natural sense of artistic style and grace, which is reflected in the way Coltrane dresses and furnishes his home and workspace. Everything must be aesthetically pleasing and appropriate. Working with people as a counselor, advisor, consultant, or negotiator, or in an artistic field such as design or photography would be fulfilling to him.
John Coltrane invests a tremendous amount of his creative energy into his relationships with others, particularly his marriage or other close partnerships. John feels that he needs others in order to be all that he can be, and he is disinclined to solitary activities and endeavors.
Working with people on a one-to-one basis to bring about mutual understanding, harmony, and satisfaction is an area in which John Coltrane can really excel. Counseling or negotiating are talents of his.
John Coltrane tends to see things from his perspective only and to be rather subjective. He also enjoys talking and expressing his views but does not always listen as well. John Coltrane has a clear mind, a love of learning and new experiences, and he needs constant mental stimulation and activity.
There is an ongoing, subtle conflict within John Coltrane, between his conscious attitudes and aspirations, and his deeper emotional and subconscious beliefs, needs, and feelings. This creates considerable inner stress and sometimes paralyzing indecision, mostly due to the fact that John may be trying to follow a path that is at odds with his subconscious desires. Chronic tightness or tension in his body may well be a signal that John Coltrane is denying or suppressing the messages from his subconscious or emotional self.
Ideally, John Coltrane will learn to accept the two quite different aspects of his and to express both of them. If he cannot do this, Coltrane is apt to attract many relationships into his life with people who reflect his denied or repressed qualities, and who seem to make his life difficult. (Read also chapter 4 in order to get a better picture of the duality described here.)
If he follows his true nature, his life is apt to be unconventional, unusual, controversial and full of insecurity and excitement. John Coltrane cannot and will not be forced into a pre-set mold, and John finds it difficult to conform. His offbeat interests and tastes lead Coltrane to ventures that others may consider too "far-out" or experimental. John Coltrane has a very creative, inventive streak.
John Coltrane has a strong need to be with people whom he is emotionally close to. He is very sensitive to others emotional needs, lending a sympathetic ear to their problems. Peace and harmony in his personal surrounding and relationships are very important to Coltrane.
John has the ability to stand on him own feet and use the power of his own personality to attain success. John Coltrane needs to be a leader and he has a strong desire to obtain power and authority. It is imperative to Coltrane that he be out in front of the parade.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Ascendant in Pisces and Sun in Libra
Sun in Libra
Sun in 7th house
Sun Conjunct Mercury
Sun Quincunx Moon
Sun Opposition Uranus
Sun Opposition Moon/Asc.
Sun Conjunct Pluto/MC