challenges and difficulties
Holly Valance takes her personal relationships so seriously that they may seem more like work, constant effort, and compromise, rather than a free and enjoyable sharing. She may feel that relationships in general require more of her than they are worth, and Holly enters into any close relationship cautiously and conscientiously. Holly Valance also fears entrapment in close relationships.
She is serious-minded and may have difficulty making light social conversation or participating in friendly, personal interchanges.
Holly Valance tries to be strictly accurate and she is critical of people who exaggerate or talk on subjects they really know little about. Valance withholds her thoughts and opinions until she has thought everything through quite thoroughly, and sometimes Holly's silence discomforts others.
Her mental concentration is very good but her breadth of understanding may not be.
She is suspicious of groups, crowds, and social organizations. Valance is quick to pick up on social charades and insincerity and avoids the limelight and glamour. Holly Valance is direct and to the point in speech and manner, stubborn and inflexible, and often unwilling to communicate her innermost feelings and thoughts.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Holly Valance instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Holly Valance needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Holly Valance needs to take what she has learned (either through formal education or her own questing and life experience) and share it with others, communicate it or express it in a way that can benefit others. Knowledge and understanding, which does not enhance either Holly's quality of life or that of persons in her world, is of little real value. Putting Valance's understanding, philosophy, and convictions into practice in her daily relationships, and in the multiple choices she makes every day, will enable Holly Valance to really test her belief system and discover more about life.
When under stress, Holly Valance is apt to seek refuge in imagining that the grass is greener elsewhere, rather than working with what is at hand. Holly Valance needs to cultivate her ability to live in the present!
It is in any involvements she has with teams, clubs, organizations, networks, and the like that Holly Valance is most likely to wrestle with these issues. The qualities described above need to be channeled into some sort of group effort or experience, or have some impact on society at large.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Holly Valance back, or which she is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Escapism through fantasy, intoxicants, or passive, vicarious activities (television, movies, etc.), waiting for a miracle instead of taking constructive steps to help herself, aimlessness or an inability to make and keep commitments, and self deception regarding other people. Holly has a tendency to be a martyr.
The following are specific activities that will support Holly Valance in her growth. These may or may not feel natural to Valance, and she may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to her path to wholeness.
She needs to give and receive affection, love and pleasure (primarily with the qualities described previously). Holly Valance has to learn to respond to, appreciate and create beauty, art, harmonious surroundings and relationships. She needs to be aware of aesthetics and to do things in a gracious, pleasing manner. Holly Valance has to start enjoying life, nurturing friendships and cultivating her ability to love and to receive love.
Valance is a good team worker and has the ability to lead others. Her relationships and associations with others tend to be harmonious and cooperative. Holly Valance may also have a very industrious family and she tends to be strongly tied to them.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Libra
Saturn in 3rd house
Saturn Conjunct Pluto
N. Node in Gemini
N. Node in 11th house
N. Node Opposition Neptune
N. Node Conjunct Venus
N. Node Conjunct Mars/Asc.