approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Harriet's basic stance toward life, the way others see her, the way Harriet Hilliard-Nelson comes across, the face she shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Harriet Hilliard-Nelson - her real motivation, which describes the kind of person she is at heart and where her true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Harriet Hilliard-Nelson" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Harriet a little better. This page describes the disguise Hilliard wears, her role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
She is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if she strongly disagrees with someone, Harriet Hilliard-Nelson will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. She often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Harriet has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Harriet Hilliard-Nelson very much wants to be liked and because of her need for approval and acceptance, Hilliard is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. She so much wants to please that often Harriet Hilliard-Nelson will suppress her own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Hilliard's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
Her need to create harmony extends to her physical environment and personal appearance as well. Harriet Hilliard-Nelson appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. She does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From her home furnishings to her choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
She also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Hilliard is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Harriet possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to her and finding the right person to share her life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Harriet Hilliard-Nelson - she is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases her self-confidence. Harriet Hilliard-Nelson does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on her partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being herself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Harriet.
Others see Harriet Hilliard-Nelson as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to her, this is the sort of face Hilliard shows to the world. She possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. Her motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Harriet Hilliard-Nelson usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
Harriet Hilliard-Nelson seems quirky, unusual, offbeat and "different". Sometimes it seems that she is trying to provoke people and upset the status quo just by being herself. Hilliard tends to be restless, excitable, and somewhat ungrounded or nervous as well.
Harriet Hilliard-Nelson is extremely sensitive to all of the incoming impressions and energies around her, and at times she can be overcome or dominated by more forceful personalities. Learning to establish clear boundaries is important for her, as Harriet Hilliard-Nelson tends to become enmeshed emotionally and/or psychically with whomever she is with. She may have the chameleon's trait of seeming to become the people or person she is with the most.
Harriet Hilliard-Nelson has a sweet, appealing demeanor and seems instinctively to grasp the concept that "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar". Her personal brand of charm is usually quite winning. Harriet coax rather than coerce. However, if she does not get what she wants, Harriet Hilliard-Nelson is likely to resort to insincere flattery, wheedling, whining, or pouting rather than stating directly what she needs, or doing for herself. Hilliard seems to need others' approval first.
She is very sensitive to her surroundings and inclined to be easily influenced by others. Harriet Hilliard-Nelson tends to avoid confrontations, discussions or arguments for fear that she cannot stand up to them.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Uranus Square Asc.
Neptune Square Asc.
Venus Sextile Asc.
Asc. Opposition Uranus/Neptune