Grace Stafford
challenges and difficulties

Grace has an innate distrust of groups and/or a cynical attitude toward society that may leave her feeling out of step and unable to participate in activities with her peers. Overcoming a sense of aloofness and alienation from others is an important task for Gracie Lantz.

Grace Stafford has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life which colors everything she does. Caution and realism are her virtues though Grace limits herself at times by being too careful, shy, or fearful, and not believing in herself enough or being assertive when necessary. Others find Grace Stafford difficult to get to know intimately, as Gracie Lantz tends to distance herself from them or to put forth a rather stern, "adult" face to the world.

At times Grace Stafford struggles with nebulous worries and insecurities, fears which may be difficult to name. Mostly, she may be afraid of getting acquainted with the inner workings of her mind and soul, feeling uneasy with anything irrational or intangible. Grace Stafford has to work hard to overcome being overly serious regarding the spiritual side of life, especially if her religious upbringing emphasized guilt and retribution. Reorienting herself in the direction of spiritual optimism will do much to lift the cloud of worry that settles over Grace occasionally.

Grace Stafford has a desire to break away from tradition and to free herself from restricting conditions. Somewhat inflexible and rigid, she may suddenly become inhibited before she initiates her objectives, which could work out to Gracie Lantz's disadvantage.

Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Grace Stafford instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that she is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for her. The direction Grace Stafford needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.

Instinctively she is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, Grace stands alone when she does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. Grace Stafford has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that she must be self-reliant and that only she can come up with the answers she needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate her from others, or make Grace Stafford feel that "it is me against the world".

Social skills and graces and what Grace Stafford calls social "games" do not come naturally to her. Grace Stafford needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.

It is in relationships that are more than superficial or casual - in particular in cases where Grace Stafford has merged emotionally, legally, or financially with another person - that she is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Gracie Lantz will see these issues arise in close partnerships of any kind, especially when there is a mutual dependency involved. Dealing with in-laws, inheritances, and legal matters involving joint custody, shared assets, and resources is also a part of this.

The following are specific activities that will support Grace Stafford in her growth. These may or may not feel natural to Gracie Lantz, and she may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to her path to wholeness.

She needs to give and receive affection, love and pleasure (primarily with the qualities described previously). Grace Stafford has to learn to respond to, appreciate and create beauty, art, harmonious surroundings and relationships. She needs to be aware of aesthetics and to do things in a gracious, pleasing manner. Grace Stafford has to start enjoying life, nurturing friendships and cultivating her ability to love and to receive love.

Grace has an inner need to share her experiences with others and she talks to her friends and acquaintances in a very open manner. Socially minded, Grace Stafford likes to cultivate close relationships, especially with women.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Saturn in Aquarius

Saturn in 1st house

Saturn Quincunx Neptune

Saturn Conjunct Jupiter/Uranus

N. Node in Libra

N. Node in 8th house

N. Node Conjunct Venus

N. Node Opposition Moon/Asc.