challenges and difficulties
Payne doubts his own intelligence and mental capacities, and he may work very hard at studies in order to compensate for this. Dougie is often overly serious and disinterested in light or superficial conversation. Spontaneous communication, social give-and-take, and making small talk are likely to be difficult for him.
He may have vague but ever-present feelings of guilt and fear that are difficult to pinpoint or eradicate. It is as if Dougie Payne does not trust Life itself, and is always seeking ways to defend himself from its dangers and its unknowns. Dougie Payne must learn to overcome his ingrained habit of discouragement and anxiety, and to see the world more as a friendly place than as a treacherous one.
Because of his inner reserve and basic shyness, Dougie Payne appears to lack the ability to adapt and is a bit inhibited when dealing with other people. His approach is somewhat serious and it is difficult for Dougie to face the public.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Dougie Payne instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Dougie Payne needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Dougie Payne has a great capacity for sympathy, tenderness, and caring, which is a gift that he is apt to over bestow at times. For balance, Dougie Payne needs to foster mature self-discipline, self-control, and personal responsibility.
When under stress, he has a strong instinct to retreat back to the nest, to be a child again, or to become overwhelmed with feelings and longings to be taken care of. Also, he may encourage others to depend on him emotionally (and otherwise) to an unhealthy degree. Dougie Payne needs to learn how to set limits and to turn off the flow of support when necessary.
It is in his marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. He may see the qualities that he needs to develop more fully (described above) in his partner. It is important for Dougie Payne to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in his life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them himself. Dougie Payne has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about himself through others.
He may have the feeling that he constantly has to surrender to the wishes of other people and he gives the impression of having a passive or indifferent role in his relationships. Dougie Payne never takes the initiative and depends on the support of groups he is affiliated with.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Gemini
Saturn in 12th house
Saturn Opposition Sun/N. Node
N. Node in Capricorn
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Conjunct Moon/Neptune