Benny Goodman
in Relationships

His desire for harmonious relationships and surroundings is so strong that he avoids personal confrontation or any expression of intense, unpleasant emotions. Benny Goodman is an idealist who would like to paint the world in pastel colors, and live in peace and harmony with others at all times. He is able to see points of similarity and unity with people who are vastly different from him, and befriend many different types of people. He is a considerate and thoughtful friend, and has a real flair for making others feel accepted and appreciated. Inwardly, Benny Goodman is often torn with indecision and is much more at odds with himself than others would ever guess based on his flawless disposition.

He is likely to be a great collector of things - a real pack rat in fact - for his belongings give Benny Goodman a sense of security and continuity with the past, which is important to him. Antiques or articles with sentimental value from Benny's past are especially dear to him.

Benny Goodman may also cling rather tightly to money and possessions, keeping them "in the family" rather than sharing freely with those outside of his immediate circle.

Benny Goodman feels that little, daily acts of caring and thoughtfulness are essential to the happiness and success of relationships and he knows how to make others feel accepted, loved and cherished. He enjoys good relationships with women.

Some rather acute fears of being excluded, rejected, left out in the cold or separated from loved ones can make Benny Goodman either extremely cautious about getting close to people or clingy toward whoever gives him any warmth or security. Benny Goodman tends to withhold and clamp down on many of his feelings and craves nurturing and security, perhaps feeling that they are unacceptable or will never be satisfied. Learning to be open and trust others to nurture him is important to him. His earliest years, especially Goodman's relationships with his mother, will determine whether Benny Goodman will overcome his fears or retreat behind a mask of self-sufficiency and indifference.

In addition to Benny's rather introverted, serious or self-contained side, he has a wild streak and urge for emotional freedom that breaks through erratically. Benny Goodman craves both stability and excitement, and the conflict between these two impulses can make Goodman rather tense and irritable. However, they can also balance each other out. His freer and unpredictable side will now be described.

Benny Goodman craves excitement, change and discovery, and cannot tolerate a routine or lifestyle that offers little in the way of surprise or challenge. Excitable, spontaneous and enthusiastic about anything new, he may be perceived by others as being too impulsive, especially in personal relationships. It is not easy for Benny Goodman to make or keep commitments, since he does not know how he will be feeling from one day to the next. Emotional freedom is very important to Goodman. His domestic life may be very unstable - but Goodman likes it that way.

He is a dreamer who is attracted to the inner, mystical side of life, and may have trouble distinguishing the real from the imagined or illusory. Benny does not enjoy confrontation and becomes very evasive when problems in his personal life or relationships arise, and escapes into his imagination in order to avoid dealing with them directly. He is also rather gullible and naive about people, especially if his sympathy has been aroused. Benny Goodman is very sensitive to music and can use it to achieve emotional balance and harmony.

He is very impressionable and extremely sensitive to his surroundings. Benny may be especially sensitive to noise as well as bright lights and sunshine. Benny Goodman may also want to learn about the deeper dimensions of life, the occult or mystical things.

In a love relationship, Benny Goodman is more interested in the person's sense of humor and intelligence than in her physique. Benny likes a partner who is mentally alive and keeps him guessing and Benny Goodman becomes restless and bored with someone who never asks questions, changes or surprises him. It is very important to Benny Goodman's happiness to talk, share ideas, go places together and learn new things together. Benny Goodman needs ample social stimulation, is somewhat of a flirt, and likes to have many friends of both sexes. Goodman finds a possessive, jealous partner very stifling.

Promoting beauty, the arts or entertainment can make Benny Goodman very happy. Benny wants to contribute something positive and loving to the world at large and he wants to be recognized for his beauty, artistic gifts or loving generosity. Benny Goodman may be "married to" his work - namely he may be more involved in his career than in his private life. Goodman is a natural host or diplomat.

In love relationships and romance, it is important for Benny Goodman to be able to deeply respect his partner. Benny looks beyond the superficial qualities to see their inner worth (or lack thereof), before he lets himself really fall for someone. In fact, too much glamour or flashiness is something of a turn-off for him. Benny Goodman is capable of mature, lasting, loving relationships and seeks a mate who is deep, loyal, and committed. He may be drawn to someone older than him.

Benny Goodman has a good understanding of his own needs but also is genuinely interested in other people. Others are attracted to Goodman because of his gentle, kind and friendly manner and he may feel especially drawn to young people.

He is creative and ingenious and will put deep, feeling energy into his creations. But his emotional state is easily upset and Goodman can be a fanatic in love relationships. Benny Goodman tends to be possessive and he has such intense needs that disappointments may be unavoidable.

Love relationships are likely to be on his mind a lot and Benny Goodman seems to live only for love. His power of attraction is unusually strong and Goodman will probably have very deep relationships. His relationships could be fated or he may fall in love with someone of social standing.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Libra

Moon in 2nd house

Moon Trine Venus

Moon Opposition Saturn

Moon aspects Saturn and Uranus

Moon Square Uranus

Moon Square Neptune

Moon Opposition Uranus/Neptune

Venus in Gemini

Venus in 10th house

Venus Sextile Saturn

Venus Conjunct Sun/Mercury

Venus Conjunct Sun/Pluto

Venus Conjunct Pluto/MC